What are your plans for when they pass away and can’t do it anymore?
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it’s my biggest fear when my parents pass away cause they take care of everything for me. My pdoc said he would find a nice long stay psych ward for me… but i hope maybe one of my sisters or my brother takes me in.
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I know my siblings won’t take me in so I’ll be on my own. But for your sake, I hope your siblings will let you move in
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That would be my parents. I…really don’t know how I’ll keep going when they’re gone. I’ve told them that before too, and they told me not to think like that but.
I mean, they check in to make sure I’m still eating and bathing and changing my clothes. I think my functioning will take a big hit.
I don’t want to have to rely on my boyfriend for all those things either 
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yea i hope that too… it would be better solution than going to the psych ward for long time… i wouldn’t like that. But pdoc said to not worry about it till it happens… not sure that is a good idea to not think about it cause when it happens then then suddenly don’t know what to do.
But you got your husband right?
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Yeah, that makes sense @anon2818416 .
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Yes, I have my husband. I just worry that something will happen to him and I’ll be on my own again
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yea i understand that fear =/
i think we should try not to think too much about it cause it doesn’t really help being worried about it
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True @lekkerhondje. I wish I could stop worrying.
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I can understand your anxiety/fear. I live independently, but have a fair amount of support . The difference between how I was doing in Essex with very, very little support and how things are now is considerable .
When my granddaughter and a granddaughter tested positive for COVID I was both concerned about them, and anxious about support if the worst happened. I kept these worries to myself , but I can tell you I was more anxious than I’ve been for quite awhile . Thankfully for them and for me they’re doing much better.
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I feel like this topic should be my wheelhouse. Truth is, I wonder(and it’s taken a lot to get me to this point) but I wonder if I’m gonna be written out/(disowned) ultimately where the almighty buck is concerned.
I still have SSDI. But I look at the example of my then 102 year old Great Aunt who converted her S.S. Into lodging and care at a home. In the states, where this occurred they(I think this is correct) they began giving her smaller rooms, had her take on a roommate, etc., when she didn’t (ahem) die fast enough.
Due to family splintering we reconnected late in the game and would give her some money and she was happy bc it meant that she could get a haircut!
So factoring in her case I’d like to live with a sibling and keep control to the last breath. I’m not exactly laughing if this case sounds familiar or is effecting anyone now.
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That’s awful. I’m so sorry
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You don’t have to wish the likes of me any condolences.
My fathers father left a family of 5 children and moved to Australia. There’s a lot there…
The Great Aunt in question was this mans sister. She once got to dance with Fred Astaire! She was a lifelong dancer and said Astaire wasn’t as good as her husband.
I never visited her; BUT my thought process was my optics would be depressing(This family has been through way way too much)
Last bit- my mother says ‘That’s all families’. But I just don’t know.
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That’s awesome!!! She must have lived well.
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My mom has lung cancer and my grandmother has alzheimers. They are all I have and soon I’m going to be all alone. I don’t have any brothers or sisters. I’m saving as much money as I can because I don’t know how much time they have left. My aunt is getting my grandmothers house and she’s gonna sell it. She said "I’m gonna laugh when you’re homeless’. I have $12,000 saved. My goal is $20,000 by this time next year. I’m also dealing with some severe health issues. I might have lung cancer too. They found 2 growths in my lungs. If that’s the case I’m giving the money to my buddy and he has instructions and what to do with the ashes.
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I’m so sorry @Wantsome480. That’s awful! I’m thinking about living in a group home if anything happens to my husband. Could you go to a group home?
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I’ve thought about it. I’m capable of taking care of myself with some help. I’ve lived on my own before. I have a close buddy that jump in front of traffic for me. We’ve been friends for 25 years. I’d rather live on my own but I’ve considered a group home if things don’t work out.
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For real? Thats mean.
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Very mean @Aziz @Wantsome480 . What an awful thing to say, or even to think
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My aunt is jealous and say’s I’m getting a free ride living with my grandmother
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