you need serious therapy
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My favorite date is that Iāll never have to have one or sex for that matter ever again as long as I live!! Woo hoo freedom!!! Free at last!!! No relationships ever again !!!
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Doesnt matter just want someone to love me and accept me for the way I am.
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Iām a little confused about your comment.
I have a sister who has a physical disability.
April 26th. Itās not too hot and not too cold. All you need is a light jacket!
How has no one else said that yet? Am I getting old? Are my references no longer relevant?
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We would go to a grocery store and wonder around picking out snacks. Then we would go meet up at the game shop for board games.
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Serious answer. We meet for a triple round of laser tag. I rank. Then, we go out for all you can eat sushi, to build up calories for the full night of dancing at a rave or ska concert in another state. The dancing is all about jumping around and punching the air, with no physical contact. We leave the venue just as the sun is rising, and wander the streets of an unfamiliar city, watching everything come to life. We stop for amazing eggs and toast at some diner, then pass out in the car for a few hours before driving back home.
I havenāt had a night like that in ages. Mr. Star is not an impulsive person, and he refuses to go dancing with me. Itās probably for the best. I canāt pull all nighters and still function the next day anymore.
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That sounds awesome, other than the laser tag lol.
Iāll go on that date with you right freaking now.
You should know in advance that I get real competative with lazer tag,
There will be trash talking and I will not let you win.
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You better watch it. Iām like a super ninja sniper. I have mastered the art of stealth and I destroy bases! Nobody ever finds me!
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Sex before, during and after the date. This will be my last x-rated comment for two days.
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But seriously, I havenāt dated a lot. But when I was dating years go I only considered a real date in very narrow terms. I had it in my mind that it only counts as real date if I pick the woman up in a car at her house, take her to dinner and a movie and then dropped her home afterward. So (to me), meeting at the mall to walk around wasnāt a date. neither was going to the park and feeding the birds with a woman I liked. Itās kind of weird but thatās how I thought. I guess I had a very traditional idea of dating.
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Any lady who can put up wih me over dinner. Never been a dating type person but like dating in relationships. Love eating out. You donāt have to do dishes so that is the bomb!
So. A nice meal out. Good conversationā¦doesnāt even have to be sex or anythingā¦although you always fit that stuff in!
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Damn, you beat me to it!!
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It was like the other day when we talked about random stuffs OTHER than sex and walked 14 000 steps without realising but he says it wasnāt a date 
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Ah cāmon manā¦ walking through the park with a chick is totally a date.
Actually the way I see it is that any previously arranged meeting is a date. We made the date and we both saw it through.
Perfect dates eh?..
My first girlfriend was always pissed at me not knowing a god damned way to entertain her. I learned something back then as I was too intimidated and poor to really take her outā¦ the date she was most pleased with was getting burritos from this drive by place and the sitting on the ground in gas station parking lot across the street to eat them. Women just seem to like being a part of the world when they go out. It doesnāt matter much beyond that so long as their standards are catered too.
I used to frequent a bar down town and I learned pretty quickly to keep my mouth shut on all the smartsy stuff as to give myself a more casual presence. Then one day Iām down there with a girl I know who had a degree in the sciences and without relent she was happily trouncing about all the sceincy topics she knew aboutā¦ which is most of them. It was real strange to see my socially conservative judgment smashed to bits by a woman.
From here the perfect date is probably the classic affair. Iād meet her and talk to her and everything would be naturalā¦ there would come the time where I make balls to try an ask her out and it comes across akward and clumislyā¦ but in the way that seems cute and endearing to her and she says yesā¦
Then I meet her somewhereā¦ and she is actually on time and actually has curiosity about me so the conversation keeps on flowing. Then it becomes what a date should be, which isnāt about location or food or activity but a savage interview of one anotherā¦ wherein it all pans out that weāre both interested and happy with that day-dream air to itā¦ like damn that seems like it was an unnatural experienceā¦ I canāt believe I made that happen and she seems thrilled to have been a part of it.
Or in shortā¦ any date that leads to another dateā¦ until both love and coitus are found 
even if only temporarily
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My perfects dates are all a memory 
I guess itās cool cuz I never really had a mother. So when I got to a certain point with girls, I think I adopted / was adopted by this girl as like a son. So I had all the greatest times with her and all the worst times. But overall, I still think about that girl over everyone else. Itās like a Mom all over again, only this time she was actually putting in effort for us. And the silly part about this was, she told me I remind her of her Father haha. So we were like soul mateās 
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I get confused on that lineā¦ A girlfriend would be a great escape from my mother being the primary female influence on my lifeā¦ only one day to having the waking realization that my gf has became her to an uncanny extent. Some gross realization of Freudian inclinations where I then start to loathe my wife as I always have my mother.
Women are thoughā¦ not wholly understandable if you subtract their capacity for motherhood. As are men when you subtract their fatherlinessā¦ unless they have done so themselves.
Girls do seem to like catering. Making me miss my female friends old mate!
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All i was saying was, i cannot say with certainty that being in a wheelchair would be worse than what i have. I would have to see what its like. And i dunno if god would make me do that cuz it might not be even tolerrable. Itās a complex question, i wrestle with it, cuz some of what ppl go through seems unbearable to me, i dunno how to rationalize it with my spiritual beliefs.
@mermaid1 my therapist doesnt want to see me often, cuz i am not doing much with my life and dont have much to talk about. I was looking into volunteering opportunities this week, but a certain type of bug showed up again after three months and iāve put volunteering on hold.
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Well Iāve never dated so I canāt imagine what dating after having been with someone for a while would be like. I also canāt imagine what it would be like to have much money to spend. Soooā¦
I get dropped off early and meet my date in the park. We walk through the park and and chat, just light conversation. We sit down and I tell her sheās cute. She compliments me too. We hold hands as we talk some more. We share some common interests but obviously sheās not a female version of me as thatās not realistic and would be weird. It doesnāt matter how much money I have (donāt have) or that Iām overweight. We both leave eventually, thinking that it was worth the time we spent.
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