What did your parents want you to be?

My mom wanted me to be a Doctor. My Dad wanted me to be dependant and married with kids. So if I was a doctor and married with kids I would have made my parents proud.

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Those are big things

If you get all the little things right that you can, it adds up

Just do your best!

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My mom wanted me to be a gay actor. My Is father.
He just played ass wanted me to die. So he wouldn’t have the thread of child support. It was my stepfather and my grandfather. Who were manly men. It taught me the skills necessary to whoop.Ass. On everything I Tackled.

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My dad told me supportively that I could be anything I wanted in my life, what a bummer. Now i’m a retired author with SZ. :wink:

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I have never understood why parents want their kids to be a certain thing. People can have unique interests.

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They never said, but I suspect if I had been a priest/vicar/pastor type of thing they would have been over the moon. Instead they got an atheist!

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I guess my parents wanted me to be happy. I’m sometimes sorry all they got their only daughter to be is crazy. But I try my best.

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My mother told me I was too stupid to be anything other than a tradesperson at best and suggested I refrain from reproducing.

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My parents gave me zero guidance and never had any conversations about careers and adult life. I feel like it was neglectful in some aspects. Im glad they didn’t have a specific thing they wanted me to do and pressure me into but they went the total opposite way and seemed apathetic or unaware that talking about that kind of thing is normal and also helpful for a child’s development in making goals etc. I literally didn’t understand what university really was or how careers worked until my friends went to university.

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I’m lucky my parents just wanted us to be good adults. They don’t ask too much of us, but at the same time, expect respect and obedience, which if I was a parent I’d be the same. My parents don’t care what we do as long as we can take care of ourselves… except for me.

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My kid is 23. I would not ask for that of an adult. That’s just weird.

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I would agree normally, but we all live under the same roof. So, their house, their rules. Both of my 30yr old and 27yr old brothers live here too, so it is kinda odd. I love the fact that my dad will never kick me out, even when I do really dumb things.

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My daughter is with us because of the housing shortage. I treat her like a roomie and respect her autonomy. If I live long enough to make it into a long term care I want her to pay for the good dog food for me.

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Of course, my parents expect my siblings and I to have jobs and take care of each other. I will most likely live with my family till I die, so that means taking care of my parents. I expect everyone to be gone by then living with their families, so I’ll love with my parents till they can’t anymore.

I’m sorry about the housing shortage up north. US interest rates are wacked out now too, so we sorta understand because we’re moving out in the country.

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In high school, I decided to pursue computer science. My parents were happy with that.

I went to college and completed a 2 year program and obtained my diploma in computer programming.

I was happy with this. I planned to get a decent job with an internship from my college.

However, my parents wanted me to go to university. My college was on the same campus as a university and they wanted me to go there for I think another 2 years and get a degree in software engineering.

I was okay with this. I didn’t think anything of it. I thought, what the hell ? Another 2 years of learning would do me good.

It was my 1st year of uni that I dove deep into a psychotic state and had to be hospitalized.

I don’t blame my parents. And I don’t blame myself.

It just happened.

:man_shrugging:t3:

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My parents wanted us to go to college and get a degree in which we could support ourselves financially. My brother graduated from an Ivy League school and became a college professor and I attended a private university and became an elementary teacher.

We were allowed to live at home after high school but only if working full time and or going to school. I was always doing one or the other at my worst which I guess is unusual.

I feel bad though because my sister didn’t want to go to college so she had a harder time with my parents. They’ve not moved past that and I wish they would.

I am easier on my kids. Education is extremely important but I’ll support them any way I can. College isn’t for everyone. As long as they are happy and self sufficient that’s all that matters.

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We didn’t discuss it, I made a bad choice (maybe) i guess it was a good choice now though (maybe) as its led me down other paths

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What’s going on in Canada with the housing shortage? I didn’t realize that was happening in Canada, as well as with the US.

Sometimes I hear there’s a housing shortage in the US and sometimes I hear it’s a lack of affordability. What’s going on there?

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Mom dreamed of me becoming a doctor, while dad would’ve fancied me joining the army.

Guess what. Mom failed her med school exam and dad has worked in the military.

I became an engineer instead.

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My dad cared about nothing but becoming a tradesman like a real man does. And yep here I am…hating it :sweat_smile:

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