We have been together over two years. I don’t think marriage will ever be on the cards and I am learning to make peace with that. Also to be fair , when we first met I did say marriage woudl be nice but if it didn’t happen it wouldn’t be an issue. I don’t know what changed but I suddenly had someone I wanted to marry.
I really like him, and I know he feels the same. It took me a long time to feel like he really does like me and there is no other motive to it.
In saying that though, I also have to be a bit practicle. If we did get married, I’d go for a prenup. Everything I own legally was given to me by my parents. I don’t want to risk that away if things do go wrong. Because even though I own some of the property its still not “mine”. Or at least it doesn’t feel like it is. I never earned it.
… Don’t know what extra good marriage would bring. Plus everytime I think I want marriage its always because that’s what’s expected of me. As an Asian (Indian) marriage in our culture is a big thing. Living in isn’t seen as “acceptable”. Still, my mum says I shouldn’t worry about what people think and she doesn’t have an issue with me living in with him. More so the older generation in my family have more of a problem.
I wish I could have a live in girlfriend, but my parents are conservative and disapprove, even though im a 35 year old man. we’ll I will be able to when I own my place outright, but that will be in another 10 years. they can’t say anything then, but they would still disapprove.
They can’t say anything now either. Otherwise you could sue them for tenant discrimination. You pay for that place, don’t you have a contract written up?
no we don’t have a contract yet. dad just said it would cost $80,000 to purchase the place, so far I’ve paid $15,000. he said we should get something in writing though. he just hasn’t gotten around to it yet. I will mention it to him.
