Why do I even want to get married

I really cannot answer that. I really want to be with him , for life. But do I / we need to go through all the legalities to prove it?

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No you don’t.

It comes down to goverment tax benefits, legal protections and healthcare for us in the US.

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Depends. If you aren’t married, then you have no say in hos care of he is hospitalized for disease or injury unless he goes through with making you his health care proxy or gives you power of attorney. Same for him of you get hurt or sick. That decision making goes to next of kin.

Same of one of you dies, next of kin makes all final arrangements.

Money- if not married you are not entitled to anything he leaves behind. Only if he places you in his will, which can be contested by next of kin.

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I came to say the same thing.

I think if you want to spend life together you may consider getting married.

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maybe you need convincing that he will stick around, does he want children? it would be a shame if that was a problem.

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And it’s not difficult to get married either.

Basically we went to the court house and signed some papers,

Paid $20 and we were officially married.

Still had to have an expensive wedding,

But the actual paperwork was super easy.

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This never even occured to me. Thank you !

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I just had a courthouse wedding.
It was perfect. Nothing extra. Just my sister and husband.

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Neither of us want children.

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Does he want to marry you @anon25873142?

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Yeah I don’t think I’d be up for an Indian wedding with 5000 guests :flushed:

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Yes he’s said once we move in together. But I get frustrated because he takes things so extremely SLOW. I tell him this all the time.

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Do your parents expect it though? Such a big tradition.

I hope you both can decide for yourselves.

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No my mum also says that she’d just use the money saved towards a house.

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Smart. Logical thinking.

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@anon25873142 do you want to be married?

How long have you been together?

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Almost 5 years. I need to think about it more.

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My other half wants to get married someday, but I don’t want to be too quick about it. I just want him to have the legal right to arrange my funeral when I die and close my accounts. He also needs to be able to make health care decisions for me as I don’t have anyone else to do this now. My sister is my only next of kin, and she can’t anymore because of her health.

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before we were had the legal right to marry, we got a lawyer draw up Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care and Finances, and all the things you mentioned.

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Thanks @Kxev 15

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