- You can’t diagnose yourself, ever. Even if you are right, it’s not to be taken seriously. 2) My sister was diagnosed with BPD and Bipolar II, and she is quite selfish and can be plain hateful. She is also clingy to people she doesnt outright hate, and then she temporarily gets in these moods where she hates them too, then goes back to being clingy to them. It’s rather obvious. She loves drama, is always being overly dramatic while I just raise one eyebrow like “please, I’ve lived in hell, whatever it is, it’s nothing”. I usually just go outside an smoke a cigarette if I cant stand being near her.
She seems to have a grip on the downside of her Bipolar with the antidepressants she takes, but she doesnt take a mood stabilizer. She gets hypomanic and I am so used to it that I dont even bat an eye. She gets really dramatic, says bizarre jokes, laughs at everything and drinks tons of coca-cola when she is hypo. She also stays up late and wakes up early.
But her borderline PD is rather harmful. She gets seriously hateful and its hard to love her when she acts so hateful. In my opinion, her hypomania doesnt hurt anyone and she seems to enjoy it and still does her work in that state, but her borderline PD is disruptive and causes arguments and is good for nothing.
Unfortunately, she does not have strong insight and outright refuses the appropriate medications for her disorders, but she is engaged so her fiance is gonna be her new victim, and as of now they are talking about moving out of state once they get married, so to put it simply, I don’t care, it’s not my problem. She just got an accounting degree (but isnt employed, she “doesnt like” accounting) and is engaged, so she is on her way out of the house.
I on the other hand was evaluated and came up with a florid case of paranoid schizophrenia, trauma and psychopathic tendencies. I have profound insight, I am a psych major, I read even more books on my own time about my disorders, and I take the appropriate medications. (plenty of pills, believe me)
In my opinion, Boderline is more simply the selfish personality disorder. It includes a lack of empathy and a strong tendency to manipulate others, but is unlike the other cluster B personality disorders because they then want empathy from others- not respect or submission from others, but empathy from others- very curious. But when they arent looking for sympathy and doting, they are often hateful, which is one of the reasons why the cluster B personality disorders are called “Dramatic/Erratic”.
But enough about me, I know a bit about borderline because it was in Psychology of Evil and Abnormal Psychology. I’m not gonna write an encyclopedia article about it right here, but if you have specific questions, I know it inside and out, I live with a person who has been diagnosed with it and I have studied it formally in school. Just feel free to ask me whatever, I am delighted to answer.
But the one piece of advise I would give right now is “Don’t care about what they say” because people with Borderline change their minds like they’re doctor Jekyll, so don’t listen to them when they get really dramatic, that is what they want, and paying them too much attention fuels their disorder. It’s for their own good to recognize when they are having mood swings so you know when to disregard what they say. If you actually try to reason with a borderline person while theyre being dramatic, clingy or hateful, you wont get anywhere, its like taking to…a crazy person!
