I’m just venting here, so thank you in advance for reading and for any input you might have to give me on this.
So, she and I met a couple of years ago in a rally, I was an activist (still like to think that I am but I’m not doing anything at the moment), and so was she. We got along pretty great, started to chat on facebook.
Eventually it turned into a weird thing, she has issues, big issues, and she talks to me about them all. I’m not going to go into details because its rude to talk behind people’s backs, but she has serious codependency issues and anger issues.
She lives with her mother, grandmother and boyfriend, that is also a friend of mine.
She doens’t want to work, she doens’t want to study, she just wants to be on facebook all day and complains about her boyfriend having to work because she doens’t want to be home alone.
Of course she doesn’t have any money and all she has is from her boyfriends money he gets from the government and that’s about to end next month.
So, another friend of mine and me talked and she was pretty depressed at the time for not going to see radiohead and we have some money and decided to join in and offer her the ticket and that’s what we did.
The tickets were ordered, I payed for them, this other friend of mine is paying half.
But I sense this depressed friend of mine was kinda into us buying her the ticket and manipulated us.
I think this because we haven’t told her that we bought the tickets, we want to tell her in person, and she sent me a text saying the tickets sold out and that we didn’t buy them… I got the feeling she was positive that I was going to buy her the ticket and now I feel manipulated and kind of feel like she doesn’t really deserve to have it.
I’m not going to back down, I’m giving her the ticket anyway, but seriously, I’m going to back off from her a bit these next few months until the show. I’m tired of being a napkin to her, all she does is complain about her life and how she never gets anything good going on, but she doesn’t do anything to change.
I offered help a few months ago but she told me she refuses help because, and I quote, she doesn’t want the “crazy label”… I told her I have the label and it’s not so bad.
I don’t know, what do you guys think? Was I manipulated?