I’ve been wondering, do you find it morally wrong to manipulate people or do you find it’s normal to do so?
My future mother in law manipulated me several times to see if I will lie or say something wrong etc. For this reason i still hate her and will not even attend her funeral. I grew up in a home where honesty and integrity were number 1 priority but sometimes people trick you in unexpected ways and this has happened a lot in my life. Because i find manipulation immoral i can never forgive people and look down on them. What is your perpective on this?
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I think it typically is something frowned upon though I’ve had to actually do it before to survive in life.
Go to the funeral. Your fiance will always remember that you didn’t.
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Yeah you’re right… She’s still alive but i hate her. If she dies i want to curse her to burn in hell. Ugly human being.
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It’s probably not a good idea to cling to emotions like that from the past. I have and I made myself sick recently from getting so angry the surge of hormones was probably too much for my body.
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I know and youre absolutely right! I have obsessive thought disorder or something similar because i cling onto bad emotions. I wish i knew how to let it go. It’s so difficult for me and i have a lot of memories like that. It started when i switched meds!
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Always straight from the heart.
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That depends on what you mean by “manipulation”. It’s one thing to, say, manipulate someone out of an inheritance. It’s another to try to manipulate them into meeting a responsibility.
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i typically try not to manipulate people, cuz I used to look down on it too. I see things differently now. Every type of sin is just another sin, and all of them are bad. I try not to have a hierarchy of sins, as if one is better than the other, they are all bad.
I have an appointment with a therapist tomorrow. I will tell her everything and hopefully get it sorted out asap!~
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When he was “straight from the heart” he was accused for being brutally senseless.
He is not the one to tap you on the shoulder repeating ‘i feel you there’.
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He will notice that she didn’t want to go anyway.
Whether he’d be satisfied with the fact that she did depends on what kinda person he is.
i don’t like people who;
lie
who cheat
manipulate
play power games
dishonest
cruel
abuse
■■■■ them all to 
hell
i don’t lie…ever. 
take care 
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I love you!!! 
Hugs
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Some people were raised to think manipulation is okay, especially socialites. I don’t mean to sound judgmental, @sleepybug, but I consider you to be a socialite. Looks like you have a socialite family too.
They can be insipid, backstabbing, full of ■■■■, and just fake. Can be, aren’t always. They use social prowess to make their way in life, and a high life they live. Much is at stake at something like a dinner party with socialites. One wrong statement or behavior can invoke venom from someone. They have to charm and shame and strive and sometimes lie to keep their status.
Even women get aggressive about status, it’s a thing that’s been scientifically observed. They just tend to manipulate and charm and lie and gossip and shame instead of yell and physically confront someone. Men just duke it out with yelling or fighting or my favorite, cunning. No wait my favorite is fighting. Cunning fighting. Both!
Women behave aggressively differently than men most of the time by both the way they were raised/experiences and nature/the way they were born. Hence why there has never been a female president- people think they’re not aggressive enough.
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We have a female president and she kicks ass. Of course, if you Google ‘Croatian president’ the first one showed up is her photo in bikini.
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Yeah, women are probably better choices than men for US president- less likely to be driven by a desire for power like Trump.
I wasn’t raised in a manipulated house. My Mom clearly told us what going to happen if we acted up… and she followed through.
I know manipulation happens on all levels of advertising… survey writing… and stuff like that.
But on a personal level… I have to keep myself from doing it.
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Wow… he’s really trained you.