We went to arbys for dinner. My partner went up to get our order. I accidentally spilled a little of my soda just a few drops. My father in law said if it happens again I will have to switch tables. So I got up and switched tables. They all yelled at me to get back to their table. My father in law thought it was hilarious. Then when I got back to the table I kept my head down to avoid more trouble. Got yelled at again saying I was making them look like terrible people and that’s why they never take me anywhere
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The abuse is never going to end,
You have the money,
You need to move out.
Personally, I think you should move out alone, without your partner.
She’s not much of a partner if she can’t stand up for you at an Arby’s.
My husband would damn near murder someone for trying to humiliate me like that.
You need to get out of there for your own sake, save the money and move.
Tell your case manager you want to move and she’ll help you put together a plan.
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What the actual fu ck. Seriously, this has got to fu cking stop. Do you not see that these people are abusing you? That’s what it is. Abuse. Is your partner really okay with her parents treating you this way?
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She says she knows it was them but didn’t do anything about it because of her needing them for rides
That’s just an excuse.
You can leave without her and when she finally gets her license like an adult, she can move in with you.
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Ironically, they are bad people who don’t need any help to make them look like bad people because they do it themselves every day.
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Coming out to CA and being around normal people has illustrated for me just how unfair my living situation is at home with all the hate and anger coming from my stepdad. I don’t think I can go back without starting a huge argument by standing up for myself or my mother eventually. You don’t want to live in that situation long enough for you to believe it’s normal or that you deserve that behavior, because you don’t.
Here’s to hoping we can both get into better living arrangements with people who love us.
Jeez.
You don’t need to tolerate this situation much longer.
Find a way out and stick to the plan. You deserve better than that…
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I think you get abused so much that you think it’s normal. Well, it isn’t. You have basic rights as a human being that these people stomp all over. They are toxic people who will never change and you will never get treated as good as you deserve by them. Just remember that not all people are as mean and cruel as these people are. But I will say it again, you are partly to blame for your treatment by them because you willingly stay there. That doesn’t excuse their behavior towards you though. Their treatment of you is outrageous but it’s up to you to get out of there. The situation you’re in will never ever get better.
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The way they treat you is probably illegal where you live. It’s illegal where I live.
Your “partner” is also non-supportive, abusive, piece of ■■■■. I’d be happy to provide my phone number if she’d like to know why in greater detail.
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How old are you, your partner and your in laws?
Get out of there!
You do not deserve to be treated like dirt @cbbrown!
I wouldn’t wait for your partner at this point.
Just get out now!
Tell your case manager everything, she should be able to help you move out and find you a new place to live.
Your father in law sounds like a real ■■■■ bag!
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@Wave, can I PM you?
Sure @SkinnyMe
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Thanks.15151515
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Nick hit the nail on the head. I’ve lived with someone like this, they don’t change.
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They are, in fact, terrible people. You deserve to be around much better people @cbbrown
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This is so awful. I’m sorry you have to be put through this and all the other posts where you’ve told us what’s going on. Please try to figure out a way to get out of this situation. You deserve so much more. Are there agencies in your area that could help you get out of there? I’m waffling between crying for you or wanting to give them back some of the ■■■■ they are putting you through.
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I came up with one plan my partner doesn’t like it. I’m not going to be bothered by not going anywhere with them anymore. I’m not going to let them get my money as easily as taking me to the bank and me handing it over. If they want they got to wait for it. I’ll still pay them don’t get me wrong but I decide when. Not this ■■■■■■■■ waking me up as soon as the bank opens then as soon as they get their money they drop me off to go do whatever the ■■■■ they want. I will walk to get food for my frog and bearded dragon. The cats and dog are my in laws and partner’s problem. Don’t worry they won’t starve. I can walk to get the cbd oil my pdoc suggested
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I don’t understand why they are taking money from you while they work you to death like you’re a fu cking slave. They don’t give a damn about you, and honestly, I’m not sure if your partner does either. Even if you don’t go anywhere with them, you’ll still be living with them. That is the problem. As long as you live with them, you will never escape them. I say take your pets and get the hell outta dodge.