For many doing well is not enough. Think of the person who gets 34/36 on an IQ test and berates him/herself/themself for not getting the perfect score . The student who thinks he/she/themself must always get at least an A- on an assignment , or he/she/themself is a failure.
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a 153 IQ wasn’t high enough for me, 98 out of a 100 was a disappointment, being second at anything left me flat. Now I’m at the bottom and I’m just watching the people in second place and cheering them on and don’t feel bad anymore. Mental illness humbled me.
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IQ is meaningless in my opinion. I bet it feels good though. I’m hoping to have an IQ test done some day and realize despite probably scoring over 100, there are people with lower IQs that are happier, more successful than me in life.
I’m not sure why people are obsessed with IQs. You know what Stephan Hawking said about people who obsess about it?
The only thing I was obsessed about was school. I realized I wasn’t that smart and after getting a couple of Cs and ,yes, mental illness did humble me and hurt me for a while. Now, I’m just lucky and happy to be where I’m at in life.
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I’ve always been like the baseball player who could average .305 in a practice game , but only .230 in a real game .
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The last time I tried to take an IQ teat I couldn’t even understand it. What did Stephan Hawkins say about people who obsess about IQ’s?
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Quote by Stephen Hawking : “People who boast about their I.Q. are losers.”
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Yeah I’m sort of a perfectionist but there are things such as IQ I don’t dwell on it. I don’t think any thing that can be measured by numerical value is an indication how well you’re doing overall in life.
Maybe a baseball player is batting .330. But maybe his other life is shitty that doesn’t show up in stats.
Overall life satisfaction can’t be measured by numbers imo.
I chase The idea to be better. But I don’t think you can measure what I desire
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I’m a perfectionist. For some reason making straight a’s makes me feel like I’m making up for my illness. I have a 3.78 got and I constantly feel like I am failing. I want to go to a top school for grad school and then just move on. I feel like if I get my masters at Brandeis I won’t be schizophrenic, but deep down I know that isn’t true
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I couldnt have given two fuucks about school when I was younger.
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I’ve never been damaged by striving to improve myself. Seen a tonne of people who won’t lift a finger towards self-improvement permanently damage themselves and some of them died miserable after living lives that didn’t matter. I know where I stand on the issue.
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To some degree, you’re right, @shutterbug, but maybe read this
I have some specific imperfections. They really get me down big time. I wish I could just accept them. I think they’re really bad for my mental health, my attitude towards those things
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Haven’t had that problem yet. I don’t expect to achieve perfection and I’m aware there are areas where one tops out (my heart will never let me go jogging). And there are certainly days where you push forward and wind up behind, but at least you have the satisfaction of having tried.
Quitters never win.
I am a perfectionist beyond a doubt. I think it was from having a fraternal twin. I not a neat freak or anything like that but I am obsessed with having the perfect life, actions, and thoughts and it’s painful to fall so short of that.
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I gave up on personal perfection as a child, I just couldn’t compete with my sister. She was always going to be smarter, prettier, faster, stronger - no matter what I tried.
Me too
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I agree with @Jonnybegood. I graduated high school with a 4.5 gpa (in the USA 4.0 is considered perfect) but after high school I made really bad choices which screwed my overall life up.
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Wow. That’s impressive. Twice as high as mine!
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I honestly just wanted to get out of my dad’s house at 18. I figured the way to do that was to make sure I got into college so I made sure my grades were perfect. I studied from the time I got home to about 11 pm or 12 every night. I even did homework on the weekends. Plus I hated my dad’s then girlfriend and they were always fighting. My books were an escape.
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There’s not a particularly strong correlation between GPA and IQ.
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