I’m chatting with a normal guy. Afaik. The type I would have liked before getting ill: extravert, confident, outdoor lover, bit alternative, intelligent, good job. And he even likes Dorothy Day (christian anarchist).
I’m a bit…insecure though. People THAT normal, usually do not like to seriously date unemployed quirky schizophrenic girls.
That sounds like me, but I didn’t like beer. I LOVED beer. It was nothing to me to drink a case in a day. I had to do both myself and the world a favor by quitting drinking.
Ah man. I think you should give yourself a little more credit, all kinds of people from all walks of life find partners, people are actually more open-minded than you think! Everyone is a little weird to some extent.
Best of luck
The biggest problem i run into is that i dont spend money. All these girls expect an impressive first date or activity and im offering coffee. Ive learned the hard way not to discuss my schizophrenia or living with my parents.
That is sad. A coffee should be fine. And girls have jobs nowadays…they can pay for a date as well, if they insist on impressive dates.
Thanks.
I actually got an incredibly kind message from the guy who complimented me so much. Telling me in a vulnerable way, that he was struck by my writings, because he was weird in similar ways (minus the psychosis, I suppose, I left that part out). I’m not jumping into anything. But it is comforting to know that the weirdness part is not necessarily a problem.
Well don’t be desperate and don’t get used…
I mean if you want good routine company thats called friends…
If you want good routine orgasms thats called masturbation…
Finding an actual romantic partner is all luck… Gotta be willing to spin the wheel.
But also… Don’t be desperate… Don’t let it be ultimate.
I’ve known love… Like blind love for me… What’s weird though is that it was like they were never paying attention…
The little world we actually live in.
Just don’t make sacrifices unless your comfortable…
Like a one off date just sounds fun… Or a second dates sounds fun…
Don’t let it be a continuum or a story line
Thanks…
I’m really searching what is best. I am not desperate to get into a relationship. Rather no relationship than a bad one.
I do not really know. I attract people, and are attracted to people, who are as unsafely attached as I am. Even if someone seems like a wonderful person…I think I do not have the safe base in myself…to…offer someone else a safe base, if they havent got that in themselves. If that makes sense? If someone does something like idealize me intensely and quickly…I think “here we go again”, get scared…and run off. That is not safe relationship behaviour. On both sides.
I was a bit…my ex called. We have a friendship. He is very safe to me, so I can behave safely as well. But there are other important things than safety in romance.
Pfff…don’t know. Maybe taking it one step at the time, is indeed best.
You know, just an observation…you are a really neat person and any guy would be extremely lucky to have you.
Just dont let needs get in the way of enjoying whats going on.
I think love is luck… And bad love and good love are both things…
Dont feed bad love… use it
Honor good love though.
And I mean love without action. I’ve been loved in the past that I couldn’t reciprocate. And I do love them but at that point its all muddled.
But I am alone and single and fine about it… Because I dont want to go back to the other things.
I have hope though it falters at times… But at the same time I’m pretty sure I’m ok anyway.
Unrealistic standards are a thing to try to recognize in the self…
But yeah no I’m happier on my own not submitting to the need.
I don’t know if that helps… But be patient with yourself and the world.
Lotta shallow values being reigned as aspirations… real crude world. I’d prefer to know my own sense and not be forced into changing mind just to get along
@Leaf, thanks. That was real kind. I tend to be insecure, and family tells me they feel so sad for the man who will be my partner (friends do not). So I appreciate your compliment a lot.
@Azley, thanks. I doubt between the two…being alone versus trying to connect. I tend to struggle with expectations (too low, too high). I do not really know what a normal relationship should look like and feel like.
You’re welcome, but I’m not trying necessarily to flatter, I honestly think you are special. Clearly the one drawback is he would have to put up with your rude family.
Thank you so much.
Haha. The family has sweet sides too. They were hurt.
I feel stupid. I panicked. If people come close this fast, and genuinely touch your emotions…that is scary. This person was actually nice. On second account, maybe family was right. 
Good luck with your dating adventures! I’m still half-assedly trying on some sites (I haven’t messaged a woman in months), but I figure I’ll just keep my profile up. I haven’t had any luck on these sites, but I wish you well!
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