My mother is a control freak. There I said it. I am never going to be happy and fly unless I leave this house. I’m going to need some sort of financial help to get out I’m even prepared to pay half but I can’t live like this anymore.
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I’m so sorry you are having a hard time what has triggered this decisions? Many sz can often jump to decisions too quick is there somewhere you could go for a few days to think things over
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Everybody is a control freak. But some are more controlling than others.
That is a big step! I’m happy for you that you’re taking it. It is scary living on your own, but the freedom is so worth it!
For one, I’m glad to be taking the steps to getting out of my mother’s house. Sometimes you just need to strike out on your own. I’ve had to realize that no matter how much I try to help my mother, that alone will not help her change. One thing I’ve noticed about you Ish, is that you’re a lot like me, in that you’ve got the best of intentions, but sometimes you try too hard. And maybe, you may have to realize you can’t work or start a family, etc. I know after dropping out of university the 2nd time, over time I realized I could live a satisfying life even if I couldn’t have it all. There are many ways of doing it out there. Hope this helps!
Sometimes you can’t get structured living that is needed when one has schizophrenia by living with others no matter what you do.
I used to think my Mom was a control freak too. But then I went out on my own. In my case I have drug expenses of over $2,000 a month plus doctor’s bills which Medicaid is paying for so Medicaid is a requirement for me. Medicaid limits how much you can earn if you work and the Ticket to Work program is designed to get you off of Medicaid which as I said before is simply not an option for me. So I jumped into an apartment after years of giving my Mom a very difficult time for not providing my freedom. The first thing I noticed is that when I subtracted the $731 SSI check from the $419 rent, and the around $100 or a little more electric bill I had $200 a month left. So I have a tight budget and missed my Mom taking me out to eat at restaurants which I couldn’t afford anymore. I also noticed that the only people who bothered to knock on the door had official business to do with me and no one wanted to hang out with me unless I showed interest in them. I took a few junior college courses for a while but once they ended I had nothing to do and became bored and very depressed. So soon I became a frequent visitor to the Psych Ward which my therapist said was normal for people like me moving out of their parent’s home. Now I’m happy when Mom takes me out to eat, provides transportation for me and saves me money by letting me wash clothes at her house. Food stamps have helped my finances but there are a lot of things they don’t pay for like clothes, soap, shaving cream, and razors. I understand that sometimes you have to leave your parents’ home and I wish you luck. I don’t know what the financial situation will be for you and I hope it’s better than mine. But I want to warn you it’s a tough World out there.
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My parents were driving me crazy.
And that’s why you leave. You need the job first though before you even think of leaning.
A job will get you out of the house and have less contact.
You may even be so tired when you get home, you have no time to fight or even talk!
Then you save enough money while your parents are paying the rent on the family home.
Then Voila, you put down the damage deposit, first and sometimes, last months Rent, and you’re FREE!
well let me be honest they drive me crazy but they offered to pay part of the rent to help me leave. They’re not that bad. I do work but London is expensive.
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Yea heard London is as bad as New York.
Can you commute from a suburb near a tube line?
But its so exciting to set up your own place.
I bet your parents can help you with that if they offered some rent.
I pay roughly £9 a month for my Abilify or I can get a two month prescription making it £9 for two months. GP and pdoc visits are free. Travel is free. I don’t get benefits though because I work for the most part.
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Well I have to take into consideration where I work. So I haven’t much choice.
I wish I lived in your country because that sounds more reasonable.
Arrrrrggh I don’t know why she drives me insane. she tried suggesting getting the shed done down the road so I can live in it. So we don’t have to spend money on rent. I dont she gets the point. I need to move as far away from her as I possibly can
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Mothers can be like that. I wouldn’t take her money if I were you. Then she’d still have control. You need to do this on your own. Get a roommate or something. Live somewhere that sucks for a few months, and save up for a better place.
I struggled much the last 2 months that I felt like leaving too,but didn’t muster up the courage to do so lol
Still living with my family members