So my mother left my father

I haven’t been having a good month at all. I still live with my parents and out of both of them my mom is more understanding (although she still isn’t). Well today I went to my friends house and spent time with her and her boyfriend who are very close friends to me. For the first time in a month I actually had a decent time and didn’t feel so bad for once, hell I even ate something after not eating for 2 days. Well I got home and my dad asks where I was I tell him and he just says ok and then about 20 minutes later I get a call from my mom and she asks if I’m home and I say yes and she says oh so you know what happened and I said no. She said your brothers or father didn’t tell you and I said no and she said she moved out. I’m already on the brink of going to the hospital and for the past week have been considering it and was going to talk to her about it in a few nights and now she is gone. So yea. My dad doesn’t even care if I even mention my schizophrenia he says I’m full of ■■■■■■■■ and got to suck it up.

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Well your dad doesn’t know what it’s like, if he did he wouldn’t say that. You should tell him to be grateful that he doesn’t have this illness.

I try to but he’s close minded and my mom just finds it confusing but at least cares enough to try and understand even if she finds it off putting.

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That’s a rough break @dannyboy6657. I’m sorry.

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Thanks for the empathy Everhopeful. It’s been a really tough month and it doesn’t seem to want to give me a break.

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Oh man, that’s rough @dannyboy6657. Is there any chance you could maybe move in with your mom?

I’m glad you were able to spend some time with friends.

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I don’t know if I’d want to live with her to be honest she is a very controlling person. So it’s either be misunderstood or be controlled. My dad more lets me do my own things where my mom tries to make me do what she wants.

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i’m sorry. my mom had left my dad multiple times. mainly for cheating. my dad has schizoaffective disorder too and that doesn’t excuse what he has done, both my parents are mentally ill and they understand mental illness a little bit. I have been told to suck it up and act grown up.

I wish my parents understood better but they think I’m looking for attention. As my brothers don’t have mental illness and my parents don’t as well.

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well from your mom’s perspective, I guess she is more free and comfortable in her new place. my dad left when I was a kid, so there wasn’t much impact for me. but for a while, I was able to visit him on the weekends. perhaps you can do the same, especially if your mom is helpful to talk to.

this is quite a rough experience. hope you feel better, bud.

Yea I’m 21 now and my mother and father have been together my whole life. I am the age to live alone but I really am not in the state of mind for it. I also don’t have a job or anything.

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I am sorry you are dealing with this and I am sorry your dad is so ignorant. Classic case of ignorance. My dad has barked at me a few times to knock it off. I know how hard it is. I am legit mentally ill and have lost control of myself and I have to live with someone who thinks mental illness is BS and psychiatry is a crock of shyt.
I hope you are able to stay away from your dad for the most part.

He’s at least nice it’s just when I talk about mental illness he gets annoyed about it. Like when I was in the hospital for a suicide attempt he maybe visited me once or twice but not for long and he didn’t really talk to me about anything except when I’d get home.

That’s rough, I hate when people act like they know better