I never liked online dating. I always had more luck directly talking to women irl. I try to talk to women in the gym, in coffee shops or the mall, I get more rejected when talking first and more accepted when I let women come talk to me first which is rare. My last gf we met in a nightclub she talked to me first, we stayed 5 yrs together I had a hard time forgetting her, she broke up with me because i was psychotic couldn’t pay half her rent to live with her. She said I am cheap as I never bought her smth she paid me food and cinema. We were going to travel to south america I had no money, she wanted to pay it for me. She went back to her ex and he provoked me, I just left him alone I don’t like fights.
I haven’t had a true gf since 2014, I was just in sz unstable anger issues, now on 6mg risperidone I am stable according to my Dr, I feel I can date but have no money, I want to go on disability I feel ashamed of it given that I was able to work postsz, now I can’t. My family and Dr don’t want me on disability as they think I can force myself to work its bad for cv. Which women would want to date someone with no money or on disability. Also I feel like I am cheap on others and don’t like to share. How can I become generous? Should I forget dating? I am jealous of my friend and bothers they all have a gf.
I want to forget about dating but can’t, everytime I see a women I like or if she comes talking to me I get the urge to date but i have no money. One women asked me on a date go with me to a coffee shop I said no i dont want her to findout that i am using my parents money and that i have no job a loser. I should have stayed a virgin or never dated.
Yes I am stressed of working, on lower dose meds i was able to work but had sz symptoms, I was able to keep a job 1yr despite having sz symptoms and anger issues. I hate that i need meds.
What I see as the problem here is almost totally a perspective issue.
I worked about 25 years of my life. Had houses and lots of responsibilities and whatnot.
For the past 9 year or so I havent worked. I live with my parents now. I have no girlfreind(not that I want one).
I am no more a loser than I was 10 years ago. I just am under different circumstances with a mental disorder. Dealing with meds and negatives and if i’m not careful positives. This doesnt make you a loser. You are just under different circumstances than you were.
If you want something, nothing wrong with going after it, but I see this as mostly a perspective issue.
@Aziz and @TheCanuk - NEITHER of you are losers. There is a difference between getting caught up in poor circumstances and being a person of poor character.
To me a loser can be rich and have a successful career and house and family and “perfect life and roll model “ and still be a loser because they are stuck up self righteous hateful disgusting behaved fake yuck people.
A loser to me is not based on if you are rich or have a career but how you treat people and if you are genuine or fake and stuck up and hater and attack people because you jealous or they annoy you etc
Ugliest person I know is a loser to me but she is “successful “ according to society.
To me she is a disgusting loser who hates me and attacks me all years though I did no wrong.
Second ugliest same thing and it has nothing to do with physical appearance.
