It seems like a partner these days has to fit a very narrow criteria based on each individual who is shopping for something that probably doesn’t exist
Man … I haven’t put myself out there since the illness started. I guess I’m gonna come into contact with stigma and hard truth about how people really see people who are different…
I think the focus should be on looking for your soulmate not just any random girl. She’s probably not very smart if she’s dumb enough to turn someone down for having a condition. Looks like you dodged a bullet there bro. Red flag for sure.
I have much better luck meeting women from IRL than I do on apps.
I’m quite overweight, and I feel like when people see that with “doesn’t work” they just write me off very quickly. Where as people IRL get to know my character and can see me for who I am.
Everyone is very disposable on dating apps. Even when you find someone you like, if they say something that bothers you there’s a bunch of other people out there willing to chat. I think the “endlessness” is a genuine problem because it is too easy to ignore or move on from someone who you might have been with - because there is always the possibility that there is someone waiting who is better.
Being forward with your medical issues is not going to bring partners in droves. Though honesty is important, not first date subject matter. Some people are very upfront about it and I’ve seen it on dating profiles. Some people are more reserved and wait for the person to know them better as a person. The diagnosis is associated with negative stereotypes and I think it may be best to establish yourself as a human first. Success has been found with social or dating sites exclusively for those with mental illness. That could be a less judgmental environment, but still dealing with people, that may not be the case. I am not an internet dating expert by any means. I know enough about the internet not to trust it with something so personal.
Just be yourself dude. If it doesn’t work out it’s probably because you guys didn’t click… Think of it like a puzzle. Each piece only clicks with a few other pieces. There may be a lot of seemingly close matches etc but only a small number of people you’ll actually fit with. You’re a good guy dude! Plenty of woman would be happy to date you. Just keep at it! You’ll find the right girl.
You gotta pretend your healthy and completely successful. A lot of women are interviewing you for a position. You’ll hear a lot of people claim there are exceptions but I have never run into one.
Yea man… I don’t think I fit the profile for most weman but I guess there has to be someone I click with out there.
Did you ever get any luck? Like dates or anything? When I was younger it was really easy to get girlfriend/sex but now the weman seem really picky even within just the first two or three exchanges they just stop responding… most of the time it doesn’t get past ’ so what going on with you today" or “how are you” .
I told my wife about the third week in. Dumped all of the skeletons out of the closet. Told her I enjoyed her company and I’d like to enjoy it a lot more, but she needed to know some things and I wouldn’t hold it against her if she had to walk away because she couldn’t deal.
We celebrated our 24th anniversary on July 8th of this year.