Taking some Time off from talking to mum

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I just find it difficult right now. I’m stressed out and she is so up and down with me that I just can’t deal with it right now.

I’ve asked my brother to tell her that I can’t communicate for 3 months because of my mental health. And now she’s complaining that I should have been the one to tell her.

And the other day she was complaining cos I took too long to come down for the take out food when I didn’t.

Miniscule things are problems with her. Even non existent problems become problems.

I just caaaan nooot deall with this right now as I’m super stressed.

My therapy is about 3 months then I’ll be in a better place mentally

She’s just too inconsistent for me, as a mother.

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Don’t you live with your mother?

Does she support you?

I mean, how can you possibly avoid her for three months?

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Yes I do live with her.

I think she finds me a pain. She only accepts me in the house because my Dad won’t have it any other way.

I do appreciate that I can be living there as my rent is not standard UK rent. I pay for my own food.

But I do not appreciate the way she is with me.

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It’s not too hard to avoid each other for 3 months.

I’m mostly in my bedroom.

And I don’t cook food anyways. So not around in the kitchen much. For that time being…

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My mum has this eating disorder too and it REALLY triggers my eating disorder when I see her eating. I just need some distance for that reason too.

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sounds really hard to avoid her for 3 months when you live in same house…
but i hope that if you do it that it will help you.

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Thankyou LekkerHondje, I just don’t want to hear her complaining at me for a while. My brother will be my messenger.

I’ve had psychotic experiences with her in my head and it just brings all that up again too.

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I get the feeling. But for my father. But I feel really guilty for the feelings I have in my psyche. It bothers me when he’s eating too… it triggers me a bit. But I’m the opposite… I don’t want to eat if I didn’t have to.

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Hugs to you ma’am. Hopefully your mother and you can reach a peaceful reconciliation.

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The thing is that I don’t think that she will change for some reason. That is what my Dad always tells me. I don’t know how I can get on with her smoothly but maybe there will be a way. I just can’t see it at the moment.

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Make sure to communicate to her that you still love her. So you don’t have any regrets as you age. That’s my 2 cents at least.

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Yea when I am in a better place I will communicate more things with her. Thanks for the suggestion. It means a lot.

Hope you’re well.

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Wasn’t it you who said you are cutting off communications with your friends? Maybe it was someone else. Cutting people out of your life can get out of hand.

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Hopefully if she was part of your support network you have others you can talk to when you need help if you plan on avoiding her for awhile.

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Thanks Agent101g

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I’ve got it under control, I think.

I did change some things yea but it’s not too extreme.

Thanks Nick.

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Glad you can hold on to some positivity @anon66864989
That’s the spirit!

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Thankyou Wave. Yes I really want things to work out

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