My mum is really unkind to me, she never rings ever and when i ring her she always has a problem with me and triggers me into a spiral. Like she has a problem with my weight, my smoking, my not seeing many people, if any, staying in a lot. I don’t know but she antagonistic she puts me down and im always so nice to her but she is callous with her conversation like im bugging her, which i probably am because i think she’s never liked me. She used to beat me every day nearly for years and ive had a hard time getting over that. I don’t want to see parents anymore i can’t carry on like being the doormat and her stomping all over my feelings and upsetting me every time i ring or see parents. Im 44 and ive been struggling with her all my life, she hasn’t changed one bit over the years, im so done with family, i have my husband
And im not into their strict religious thing. She has said so many hurtful things
So why contact her at all?
I know ive came to the same conclusion
Im feeling like why have i put myself through it
Im not seeing or contacting them again i just always wanted a normal life with a normal family but im never going to have that with them
What she said.
Sounds like you’re better off without that creature in your life.
Thanks @shutterbug i knew you would get it x
Either cut her out of your life, or set boundaries with her that will avoid you getting upset with her. Sometimes it’s best to cut toxicity out of your life, but when it’s family sometimes for personal reasons, it matters to you to be in their lives. In which case, you need to find a way to be at peace and still have them in your lives. They will never change, but you can control your emotions you have towards them.
Thanks @anon55031185 but its been going on too long and ive exhausted all my efforts now. I have tried everything
Sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like your mom might have some narcissistic traits.
Either way you’d probably be a lot happier with cutting her out of your life.
And I’m the same way, I vape all day and hardly go anywhere. It’s really no one’s business how we choose to live our lives. Gotta keep that stress low.
Take care. 
Thankyou hugs 
I wish you luck and a happy life I myself think it’s good to cut toxic people out of your life I had to cut my biological father out because he’s a unmedicated schizophrenic and can unfortunately be dangerous and has attacked women before including my mom so I cut him out I think it might be more healthy for you to cut your mom out than keeping her in your life
She does have narcissistic traits like she is against people being overweight although she is fat herself, things like that but im not here to you know , go into everything but you get the picture
She knows how sick i am but never shows any empathy or cuts me slack
I’m sorry she’s like that
@Twialine it sounds like you did the right thing with your biological father. I just wish id been strong enough to do this years ago, i shouldn’t have moved near them. I moved away when i was 18 yrs, i did the right thing back then
She sounds more like a hypocrite. Hypocrites are annoying.
@anon29983254 I’ve talked to him on and off for years it’s hard to cut off a parent it’s not easy and I’m not trying to tell you it will be easy but it’s worth it
Edit: when you have a toxic parent
Thankyou hugs
Your all such a great support, i feel much better now so thanks 
I can’t sleep even with Diazapam my nerves are shot
I need to chill for a bit
Thanks for everyone’s support i appreciate it
Its going to take me a while to get over this
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