I am afraid to go back on facebook/gram. Whenever I go on there I feel like everyone is looking at MY pictures and posts and judging me. i also stalked some girls in the past and am afraid they can tell and will think im a creep and reject me if i am up front with them about it. i hate looking at the lives of the kids i grew up with in high school, they are all so much more well connected and socially competent than me. and so much more mature. more than anything i cant get over the feeling that this particular girl knows i stalked her on facebook like a year ago and will hate me. but my new friend i made in the summer is on facebook talking to me and i am missing out on communication with him because he lost his phone and canāt hit me up on whatsapp. he is basically my only friend, and now i am losing him. what should i do about this paranoia?
edit: i also feel like people are posting pics to make fun of ME or in response to my pics and posts. i have nothing up on instagram. the last time i was on these social networking sites i became psychotic, now i have ptsd about themā¦
wouldnāt this fall under the delusions of grandeur category? anyway i kinda know how you feel. i had a few hundred facebook friends(accociations), and deleted all of them, but immediate family. itās all bs. though i felt bad about it for a while. but itās not probable people are so focused on you like that. more than likely youāre just a person who doesnāt post much. not much drama there. but if someone does think badly of you, screw it. itās up to you to hold value to their opinion.
heyā¦could be ideas of referenceā¦ it feeds paranoia. ā¦itās positive symptoms so you need to bring it up with doc!
Yeah facebook/media can be so silly these days. Itās great for keeping in touch with people though!
Iād sayā¦you have a friendā¦when he gets a new phone you still have a friend!
Meanwhile donāt worry about stalkingā¦just stop doing itā¦and everyone does itā¦gawd. No need to feel guilty! That is just your parnaoia speaking!
I donāt care, I am happy if others do well,
I am not jealous of anybody I am glad if people do well.
I have examples of people in Israel that are highly successful,
less successful, but for example in mathematics your level of success also depends on your talent and other parameters
,
but anyone who skips the military and does a Phd in mathematics in Israel at a young age is a hero for me,
sort of a role model.
To skip the military and move abroad at age 18 and there pursue a dissertation in mathematics is also good.
I like mathematics best, but I know how to appreciate other people who move humanity forward, esp developers
of artificial intelligence and new technologies, engineers.
Mathematics also has applications so mathematical research also moves humanity forward.
But the bottom line is if a person is successful in the spheres that I appreciate I am happy for them,
good for them, you should be happy for them instead of being jealous.
In the future it is possible that you will control your parameters and thoughts and then all hurdles are clear for you.
Sorry for this post, I was kind of delusional last night and just rambling and having all these crazy thoughts. Now Iām better, but still too afraid to go on facebook.
Forget about Facebook. How about being stalked in real life by girls? Thatās happened to me a couple of times and usually guys donāt know that theyāre be stalked as one girl put it. But I would say that a guy stalking a girl is worse than a girl stalking a guy.
lucky you, you must be very attractive to them. I would love to be stalked by the girls, it would certainly boost my self esteem. maybe when i go to college this fall i can find some girls to stalke me.
i would also that a guy stalking a girl is worse than a girl stalking a guy as something bad might happen, like sexual assault. of course women can commit sexual harrassment as well, slap on the butt or whatever, however i feel like it is rarer. unfortunately society casts the women as the victims in this,
Iām okay looking. I just found it surprising that these girls were following me and they werenāt hiding it either as if they wanted me to know they were stalking me. It was weird at first but gotta accept that fact.
I have heard on the news about guys sexually assaulting women but usually these news stories state that the victim and the criminal donāt know each other. Stalking usually means both people know each other.
Did you like that the girls were stalking you? Was it flattering, I mean. Did it boost your ego, like āI count now, Iām wantedā. Or was it a disturbance? Were you in a relationship at the time? How did your real girlfriend react?
Well, these are girls that I was friends with because we were in the same class together. I didnāt have a girlfriend at either times. I was surprised because it never happened to me before. Maybe they were checking if I did have a girlfriend at the time. Anyone could speculate.
Wow, multiple girls after your heart, you certainly had options then didnāt you? I wonder what they liked about you, are you well spoken, you look pretty handsome in you profile pic. And I remember you said you were kind of tallā¦
Well, I was more focused on my school work and I enjoyed meeting new friends and people at the time which was in my 20s. Iām under 6 feet so Iām not that tall. But yeah, the title of this thread reminded me of my experiences with stalking and wanted to state that both men & women do it.
