I am very behind on social media, even though I’m part of that generation I have hardly any friends/followers etc. The reasons I hate social media:
People judge you based on physical appearance
People judge you based on how successful you are
People with more friends and a better social life are treated with more respect
Only people with an interesting life are considered winners
It reminds me how my life pales in comparison to the cool kids’
There is no anonymity, anyone can see what you do
People hero worship celebrities who wouldn’t give them the time of day in real life
Girls are only worth something if they are considered attractive
If you don’t have the right clothes or accessories and enough money you are treated like an outsider
People favor the young and disregard the old
People don’t know what you are like face to face
Narcissistic extroverts thrive, introverts are largely ignored
If your interests don’t align with the majority you are ignored
Everyone on there has better jobs and relationships than me
I feel like I say the wrong things and make a fool of myself
I feel guilty for not doing more with my life
These are just a few reasons I hate social media. As a mental illness sufferer I feel like everyone is functioning at a higher level and I’m struggling just to do basic ■■■■. And so many old friends now walk in circles which I’m not privy to and I basically have to look at their lives and envy how well adjusted they are. I also have poor social skills so I have 0 friends, social media makesme feel like a failure/loser.
What about you, how involved are you on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc and what is your opinion on social media?
I’m quitting all social media I’m in, it’s a nasty addiction. I only keep facebook to talk to my friends that are living on other countries, but I hardly go there at all. I post some songs now and then, but that’s it.
I think there’s ugly parts of it and nice parts of it. Indeed narcissism is seen as a good thing, which is very odd. But there’s still a lot of good and interesting people out there.
I have a FB account. I don’t broadcast my personal issues though. Only a handful of people know that I have sz. I rarely post things, I usually stalk my friends or read the newsfeed. I don’t care if others are doing great or have many followers etc. In the back of my mind I know that I’m simply a good guy who was unlucky to have sz, that’s all. I don’t make comparisons. I guess you could say I’m pretty zen when it comes to social interactions.
I gave up on FB because my bf and some of my family members were stalking me. I’m pretty content with instagram and twitter now, I can post stuff that are more privare since my profile is private and I get to chat with people. People are better when they are at reasonable distance.
I like face book, I can message friends when I want and see what is going on in their lives. I love kids, seeing my cousins and friends having kids makes me feel better I don’t know why I just do.
Wow, I guess I’m just an asocial person, alot of people seem to love facebook.
I tend to get paranoid that everyone will see what I posted and will judge me or that they will judge me for not having enough friends and an interesting life.
People get cliquey, like these are my friends and you have to prove yourself worthy to be in our group. I really hate that attitude. I feel like its the same with certain regulars on this forum.
Now I’m just ranting but one thing that disturbs me is how far some of the kids I grew up with who are neurotypicals have gone. They all have degrees from fancy universities and are achieving amazing things. Intellectually they are goliath compared to me and I probably couldn’t have a conversation with them. And here I am struggling to pass my silly little community college classes with my inferior intellect. These people are literally worth more than me, the actions of their little finger are worth everything I do with my whole body. I hate that inequality.
One of the things which gets me is the holidays thing. I dont have money to go on holidays and it does crack me up when I see friends going on holidays. Also when people have to travel for work, i get the same thing.
I was a total type A personality before I got sick. I find it annoying that they have the life I worked so hard for in school and college. So i get ya.
This site is nice to connect with other people. But most are in the States and its missing a personal face to face physical aspect. Real world is better if you can find people to be with.
Yep, during my bicycle riding I often see other people who are riding bicycles too. Few years ago I used Facebook and Twitter, but I stopped it because I just stopped liking these. For example, early in this morning I said hello to another mentally ill person on her bicycle and she just responded ‘have a wonderful day’. There are many people riding their bicycles.
I don t like social media because you can be visible to all people who you are hate and then eventually there is a competition start between you and them.that so ■■■■■■■ childish.i m 35 years old and i need serious pragmatic relations.not stupid virtual victories.i have only twitter account and i follow good chefs around the world for good food recipes and some cookery news thats all
I have found this forum is very helpful, I have never experienced any competition on the social media, maybe because I do not use most of them. I did find that Twitter is very beneficial for those who want to be kept up-to-date what is happening in the world. However, it seemed so unreal when I was chatting with some Prime Ministers and other people who would not in the real life have any relations with me. Well that was years ago.
i still have fb… if i find someone to be irritating or too narcissistic or post weird stuff i just unfollow them… and they probably unfollow me too… i post sketches and music only. on twitter i’m not that expressive… only promote my online art shop. same with instagram…
I don’t like it mainly because, for the almost two years I had one, I would get paranoid as ■■■■ about having thousands of people sending random messages to eachother on a wall, trivial things that would fuel my delusions. That and don’t really knowing what to put up there.
But I do have to acknowledge that social media can be really helpful in sharing relevant information to a large audience. Be it more mundane things like a cup of orange juice full of worms at a really “in” coffeeshop franchising (this happened in my country, an entire marketing department gone to shit because the manager of that particular store refused a refund), to locating missing persons.
I only ever had facebook. I wouldn’t know what to do with twitter or instagram or snapchat. I got rid of facebook about a year and a half ago and I don’t miss it. It’s not private no matter how private you set it too. I got paranoid that the government spies were tracking me through facebook.
My idiot sister and her idiot daughter used to tag me in everything they did even though they live interstate. So my facebook was covered in pictures and messages about them. It was embarrassing to me.
You’re right, social media is a place where narcissists thrive. I only ever had one friend on social media who was cliquey. All my other friends on facebook were people I knew well from high school and work and study and they were all level headed nice people. Very inclusive.
