Should i invite her to a date?

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I matched with a girl on hot or not yesterday and we talked quite a bit. Shes really friendly and a bit chubby which i like. Havent told her that i am sz. We are both off tomorrow, so should i ask her out?

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Yeah you should

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Yes, that’s great

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Whatever feels right.

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Should i tell her that i am ill on a date? I feel a bit anxious after work so im stalling her now

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If you’re confident and like her, why not.

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Not on the first date, wait for a bit like 3rd or 4th date.

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No, no don’t say anything about sz yet

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Update: i asked her out, she said yes but just towards evening if everythings alright. So i dont know what she means by that :sweat_smile:

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I wouldn’t use the word “schizophrenia”.

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If you have too much anxiety, just wait until you feel comfortable with telling her that you have sz. That’s just what I think.

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Don’t worry too much about you having to tell her about that. Just focus on getting to know her and see if you like each other.

I think many people are open and don’t mind because they have had similar problems themselves or maybe they have a friend or family member who also has a mental condition.

Just try to tell her casually when you are comfortable and you feel the time is right if you get past the first hurdles.

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Hey, nice! Hope you have fun!

I wouldnt tell her right away. When i date i try to tell bit by bit and i make sure im not actively hiding anything. So for example i’d say i have had a hard time a while back and would like to tell more when we get closer. I wouldnt lie.

If things get serious i also wouldnt wait for ages before telling her. That might feel as betrayal.

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You should not tell her right away. Take time to get to know each other first.

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Tell right away, sz is a big thing to hide from someone you want to be with. Just my opinion.

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Tell her on the 4th date let her get comfortable around you first

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Yes. Ask her out. But be careful. It is awfully easy to set yourself up for rejection.

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Since getting schizophrenia I get rejected by all girls everywhere.

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Women seem wicked/ When you’re unwanted.
Streets are uneven/ When you’re strange.

James Morrison

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I wouldn’t tell her right away. Let her get to know you first.