When do you tell someone that your schizophrenic. And would you be afraid they wont like you afterwards.
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When I was dating I told the person not long after it started. If they don’t understand or don’t want to then they probably weren’t worth keeping anyway.
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I would go out on a first date
See what he’s like see how you get on any chemistry then if you like each other and then tell him you are schizophrenia
If he likes you enough he’ll keep seeing you
If he not the right guy he’ll run a mile
You have to be a bit thick skinned with the mine field that is dating
I just don’t go dating I couldn’t handle all the crap dates
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Well it will be a while before I even go on a first date with someone. I’m really taking my time to get my life together slowly but surely. But I plan on with anyone telling them the truth because it’s a big part of my life and the reason why I’m living the way that I’m living so young.
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Do you think revealing that your schizophrenic puts you in a vulnerable position where people might try to take advantage?
When dating I never tell someone I have schizophrenia. I do tell him my symptoms, but I avoid the schizophrenia-word (in my case my diagnosis is a bit unclear anyway).
When dating, on the profile and chats I already gave tiny hints to me being a bit different, chaotic, having a lot of life experience. I tried to phrase it in a way that doesnt set off all the alarm bells, but hints at things I can later tell more about.
I think it is best to tell bit by bit. And also try to adjust the story to someone’s response and their own level of openness. I don’t want to be emotionally “naked” while they are still “fully covered”, metaphorically speaking. My friend’s advice: dont let all the crazy out at once. I try to give a positive overall message about my current life, but also be honest about fields I still struggle with. Preferably with some lightness and humour.
I’m not the best dating advisor though…but I think with a bit of willingness from the other party it is possible to tell someone about psychosis without chasing them away.
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Hm. Yes, maybe this does make you more vulnerable. Didn’t really think about that. But I think people who really want to take advantage of others sense someones vulnerability anyway from body language, expressions, etc?
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Yea that’s why I’m very cautious because there are people out there who have bad intent. I allways play it safe and keep my distance. I’m really going to take my time and get my life together before I even think about it.
Of course. They treat you like pariah or outcast or lunatic. I don’t care. I am very proud of myself and my good and bad side, my sane and my insane side. I would tell them I am a schizophrenic. If they don’t accept it, they don’t deserve my friendship. If they understand it, they can become friends or lovers
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Schizophrenia is everything…Now the girls are looking for the rich. Therefore, if there is no income-that’s all…And if you say schizophrenic, that’s the end of the relationship .
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Well I’m a high functioning schizophrenic and it makes me pass off as being normal for the most part. However I have to be very cautious because of my diagnosis. I will keep my distance and let people truly get to know me. As well as I get to know them. And at the same time get my ■■■■together in my life.
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Schizophrenia scares people.
misconceptions and lack of education and stupid Hollywood movies
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I tell people early, but I make sure they know they’re more than welcome to ask questions
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I wait a long time before I come out about it. Its always scary when people find out… Especially when they find out I’m unmedicated too… Ive lost a lot of “friends”. But the ones who do stay have been super supportive of me!!
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Im quite open about it these days i tell everyone and then they can either love it or leave it 
livin la vida loca
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If I’m being honest, I’d be nervous meeting a man with sz off his meds. I already have ptsd caused by men so a mentally ill man who isnt medicated would seem to be unpredictable which I find scary
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I’m not dangerous though… And I’m not a man… I’m nonbinary.
But the point is that’s why I wait. Cause if they know me and how I am as a person they have less to be scared/ worried about cause they already know me. And so I am more predictable to them.
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That’s true @Noise. If they know you well it’s not such a problem then.
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I have not dated anybody after my divorce in America in March 2000, it is already over 19 years now. When I ride my bicycle I see some people, but we have just very casual conversations, nothing deep. I think I am a little anti-social, but this forum helps me to express myself which is why I also like to share my pics.
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I’m going on a date this Saturday first since my separation I’m nervous and excited. I dont think I ever want to settle down again maybe a boyfriend here or there but not settle down after this horrible marriage I’m good.