hi, i was just wondering what a good time would be to tell someone im schizophrenic if we are interested in eachother and planning on dating eventually?
I feel wrong not telling her until we are dating because what if that makes her feel stuck with me? and then again if i tell her now what if she just doesnt ever speak to me again because of it. its happened before and im scared it will happen again
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There’s no easy answer.
But most people here agree the 2nd or 3rd date is an appropriate time to tell.
Youre just going on social outings together and dont have to tell until you start sharing responsibilities in my opinion. Enjoy the socializing but no point telling until it becomes relevant
Dating someone isn’t marriage. The whole point is to find out whether or not you work as a couple. If she finds out something that makes her no longer want to date you, she is allowed to stop dating you. Same goes for you. We all lead with our best traits when we meet someone new. That way, they have some level of investment when they discover our flaws. You will probably get to a point where it makes sense to tell her, but it doesn’t have to be a first date topic.
If it is a casual relationship, I don’t think it’s that important. If it starts to get serious, probably should. People who really like you, don’t care.
Tell her you’re a serial killer. Then after a few dates tell her you’re not a serial killer, you’re actually schizophrenic and it won’t seem so bad in comparison.
No way. You tell her you’re not technically a serial killer yet, and that a doctor has attested to your mental health and well being upon leaving a hospital.
I think Devra’s advice is pretty spot on
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