Should I have a baby?

My ex-wife had our Daughter in her 40’s. And she concieved within the month.

If you think your stable enough - have one. Act before its too late. The joy they give is absolutley bloody wonderful.

Hell get a sperm donor if you need one.

This barren Daddy here has wanted one for years. :slight_smile:

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Yes, but that doesn’t mean it’s not possible. It happens often, just not as often. I personally know multiple women who conceived and had babies in their 40s

Offers me hope.

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In statistics, there is a low probability of 20% for women in their 40’s giving birth than women in their late 20’s or early 30’s giving birth which is close to 80%-90%.

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I’m a guy, and I had vague intentions of having a family, but mental illness and 5poverty kept me from it. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise.

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Yes but if you freeze eggs you increase chances.

Freezing a woman’s egg would require a surrogate mother to conceive the baby which involves IVF (In-virto Fertilization). And last I checked, IVF and surrogacy is quite expensive.

No you don’t need a surrogate mother when freezing eggs. They freeze your eggs. You go back when ready and mix with sperm and inplant the embryo in your body.

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By, the time you find a man and extract his sperm to fertilize your egg… you’ll be well into your mid 40’s which is according to the graph an unlikely age to give birth.

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Not to freak you out, I didn’t know this till I became pregnant… but I guess your chance of having a baby with Down syndrome increases A LOT as you get older… once you turn 40 your chance is 1 in 53. I know for me it would be really hard to take care of a human with that condition… just some more stuff/odds for you to think about I guess. Don’t know how legit the site I got that info is- it’s from medical news today.

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It goes on the age you were when you froze eggs rather than when your pregnant.

Can’t imagine having to chase a toddler around in my late forties. Your available energy decreases as you age.

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Women hit menopause when they are in their 50’s. Having a baby in your mid-40’s has an extremely low probability.

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The chances are different if you freeze. Your likelihood of pregnancy depend on when you freeze eggs not when you get pregnant.

I am forty three with a three year old whom I love and look after. It is hard work but she makes my family. Your life becomes someone elses and you have no time for your own interests! She goes to bed at seven hence I have time in the evenings to come on this forum and every other week when she is at her fathers. We are supposed to have children. That said, I would consider whether it could make your life a nightmare should you not be able to cope. They are seriously hard work and you need to be well enough.

How long had you been stable for when you had her? Have you been ok since having her?

I suffered from 21 and had a grip on my illness. I went into a psychiatric mother and baby unit twice and again when she was two. Luckily, by a complete chance they found a drug that works 100% for me now and I am considered in remission. So, despite being high functioning I suffered here and there and wasn’t completely ok until recently.

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I hope you continue being in remission. Good luck with raising your daughter.

Thanks, I am a devoted mother but it hasn’t been easy. I spent one month in total in hospitals since she was born but am sure the future will be different. Luckily her father is involved in her care.

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Great. One month isn’t a lot. I’m also on a med which seems to work so the future seems brighter.

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