I really want a baby. Considering asking my friend if he’ll do it with me. I’m single. How much time do I have left?
until about 40. so you have five years…
Ok that makes me feel better. Very worried it isn’t going to happen.
I’m 34 and I’m trying to get pregnant. Good luck!!
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Good luck to you to
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You may need medical help to get pregnant.
I highly recommend waiting until you are stable enough to care for a kid to have one. You don’t have to give birth. There are other ways. I managed to have a kid through foster care. He is so amazing, and so much like me that I forget some days he isn’t my bio kid.
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Thanks. I really want to give birth though. I’m now stable.
It’s good to hear you’re stable. Some drs make you go off all meds while pregnant so you need a backup plan if you become unstable as a result. Plus, once you’re unstable, it could be a long time before you’re stable again.
That said, I’m a mom and I love being a mom. I wouldn’t trade it for the world!
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That probably varies from person to person. Maybe you need to get a thorough checkup with this in mind.
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Don’t put that kind of pressure on yourself. Why do you want a baby?
I love kids and I want to be a mother.
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Just remember that it might not happen the way you want. There are many ways to have children. Parenting is a life long commitment. I don’t regret it, especially having a mental illness, but your life will definitely change.
It will be a lot harder without help. Create a support system of family or partner. I don’t suggest making this decision alone. Best of luck.
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My wife and I tried making babies our whole marriage and she only got pregnant once at 22 so we have only one child.
My wife hit menopause early and quit having her periods at 38.
I wish we would have gotten medical intervention. We both wanted at least three children. At least we have one. He is 26 though and not married so no grandkids. And if he doesn’t have a son our line of the family name will die with him. Of course I wouldn’t tell him that but I am sure he has figured it out. My dad had 7 sisters but he was the only boy.
We are too old now so it’s lost.
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He’s only 26! He’s got many more years of finding someone. His family won’t die out if he doesn’t have a son. Families aren’t like that way anymore. Girls are just as nice. 
I know many older couples who foster and they love it.
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My cousin wanted to pass her maiden name down so her two kids’ last names are hyphenated as:
her last name-her husband’s last name
When she got married she also hyphenated her last name.
I would wait until the world gets a handle on this covid19 and the economy gets better. It’s rough to bring a child into this world. They are expensive, require so much nurturing and care. I wish you the best and hope our situation gets better.
Just like others said, being a mother is much harder. Its added stress. You need lots of money, have time to take care of your baby and be able to work. You need to be symptom free and be that way without meds during pregnancy because many of those meds interfere with normal fetus development. I think many SZs had their child before their SZ.
My gf wanted to not take her pills to be pregnant when I was 21. I said no because I didn’t had enough money, did not work and was young. I was finishing my physio degree. Now I am happy that I didn’t had that kid because she left me when I developed SZ. My parents would be forced to pay her child support and she would have kept the baby. That’s if my parents didn’t already put me out of their house. I would have ended in the streets, prison or dead.
On the bright side, females can stay home without working to take care of their baby. That’s if your partner accepts you the way you are.
For these reasons you should know your partner very deeply and be confident that he won’t leave you even when you have psychosis. And if he ever leave, he might take your baby and both ways you will have additional mental illnesses like depression, PTSD etc
Its a very difficult decision that only you can weight the benefits.
I will add that I had my children before I was put on medication. The pregnancies exacerbated my sz symptoms, so it can go terribly bad if not on medication. I lost my mind both pregnancies and had to be hospitalized many times. So a lot of money was spent just keeping me safe and stable. Then once I gave birth I became extremely depressed. It took years for me to become somewhat healthy. This was extremely hard on my children. They don’t understand mental illness, so they suffer along with their mothers. Like I said before I wish you the best.
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I know lots of healthy old single people, male and female. They don’t want relationships and they are happy that way. My uncle’s friend is 48y.o. and never had a relatioship in his life, he told me he don’t feel the need or that something is missing. He doesn’t care. He makes over 500 000€ yearly, programmer for the government. He is in a different country every couple of months.
I haven’t seen someone as happy as him.
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