So she doesn’t ring me back twice in one day because shes got visitors at her house.
She has been bad to me my whole life really and i feel like its my fault for letting her.
I just think i need a clean break
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Im sorry im not very good at going into everything online but thats the jist of it. Why are some parents so toxic to their own children?
I need to put parents at some distance
Seems like i have too many enemies here, nobody interested in convo with me
I have some pretty severe issues with my mother,
But we still get along.
I just know I can’t trust her with certain things.
So, I don’t rely on her for what she’s clearly not capable of doing.
Maybe cut your mom a little slack and try to start fresh.
Don’t call as much, but have nice conversations when you do.
If she doesn’t build from there, then put some distance.
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Thanks for your reply. Yeah ive already been doing polite for years with her but she doesn’t reciprocate. Im now at the point where distance seems the best way. Ive said to her tonight, shes not willing to ever ring me and every time virtually i ring her, shes busy so i won’t ring her anymore its for the best. My mum has always got away with being bad to her friends and family, she lost her own mother as a teenager to breast cancer in the 70s, i have noticed she has gone through a lot of friends over the years.
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My mother and I have a wonderful relationship. She’s just annoyed by my delusions.
If your mom is toxic and emotionally unavailable, you need to do 3 things: expect less, contact her less, and find another person in your life in whom you can confide. You’ll feel a lot better.
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Thanks @LilyoftheValley your right and yes she isnt emotionally available, never was as a child either.
I spoke to my sister and she says she has similar issues with my mum. Its not as bad for her though as they manage it better because there closer.
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It sounds like your sister might be a good person to talk to sometimes
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Yes and my sister has mental illness as well, she has empathy unlike my mum who is arghhh
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yeah same here ducky my mom is abusive towards me and emotinally unavailble. But to my brother she rolls out the red carpet for him.
I live with her so I can’t escape her abuse. I think it might be time for a clean break and never look back.
@RebbieBush09 ahh bless you, im sorry that your mum is the same. My brothers get the red carpet. I think my mum is considered a narcissistic parent, she has all the signs i researched it years ago. Its very wounding to our self esteem when parents treat their children/ one child with such complacency and abuse. I hope you can find the strength to gain some distance from her, i wish i had done sooner. Take care, here for you
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