There is no history of mental illness in my family. Not that I know of anyway. I guess I’m the “lucky” one. I developed this illness 5 years ago and even though I have had no psychotic symptoms since I do worry if I can have children and be healthy at the end of it to look after them. I know i’d need to come off meds to have them.
I’m a 56 year old male, and I never had any children by default. I just never got around to it. Sometimes when I was visiting with my niece and nephews I would think that I really wanted to have children, but it never worked out. Maybe with my sz it was better for me not to have children. There have been times when I was a real wild man.
Don’t want kids
Got 3 lovely nieces and one nephew
Might have had kids if no schiz but not devastated that I’ll never have them
No history of mental illness in my family either. But I don’t have and don’t want children. Personally I think it’s a very bad idea.
There’s an enormous amount of stress involved in having children WHEN THINGS GO RIGHT. If things don’t go so right, then I think people with schizophrenia are totally screwed, and the children suffer.
My brother and his wife are the most highly functioning people I know, and they struggle. It takes 2 highly functioning people to manage the job in my opinion.
When I get to see my nieces, I’m exhausted after about 2 hours. There’s no way I could do it full time.
Think very carefully , it’s full on, all the time, day and night.
Do you have any nephews or nieces? That would give you a great idea of what’s involved.
I have a family history, I would never have kids. Like how could I be a father whilst being this messed up? I highly function but I have issues.
I’m with everhopeful and mouse. Besides disliking children I have a mental illness history on both sides of my family. I also think that the stress would just eat me alive and I would fail them as a parent. C would have to take care of me AND the kids at times and I don’t want to do that to him. Say you lose one or something equally traumatic like C dying. I wouldn’t be able to take it and I would fail them when they needed me most or when C needed me most.
To be fair though part of my dislike for children is how fragile they are. You always hear about people saying “this one time someone said/did whatever and it has caused me issues for the rest of my life.”
Nope.
Just nope.
I think I don’t need children but I would want a significant others to talk with each other or spend time with,Don’t need children though
It is hard enough look after myself how could cope with a kid
No way
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