To understand all of that, you have to understand the nature of God, and to understand the nature of God you have to have a personal relationship with him.
It all goes back to the question of “why would God put the tree in the garden of eden if he knew that Adam and Eve would eat from it?” It is because God wants us to choose him. Why does God want us to choose him? because he wants to have a personal relationship with us. He could have made anything to worship him but what makes man special is that we have the ability (unlike a computer or a robot) to make any decision that we want. Now… Why would God want us to choose him? I believe the answer is obviously Love. Why does God Love us? The bible says that “I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End” (Revelation 22:13). Another verse states: “By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God’s command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible” (Hebrews 11:3)
You see, God created everything we know from nothing, and I believe that God existed eternally long before he created the universe. We cant even fathom what eternity is, it has no beginning and no end. And the thing that is even more amazing about it is that somewhere in this unfathomable amount of time, God decided to create everything in 7 days.
The bible also says that man was created in Gods image. So the real question is: why does God love us and why did he create us to choose him?" I believe the answer is because like Adam in the garden of eden; he was lonely. God gave Adam, Eve so that he wouldn’t be alone in the same way that God created us for him. We can’t fathom Gods Love for us because we can’t fathom an eternity of being alone.
Now why would God send someone to hell for rejecting him? God is a Just God. He is the final Judge. God not only detests sin, he cannot be in the presence of sin, because he is perfect. When Adam and Eve ate of the tree of life, man fell. That is why it appears as though God doesn’t reveal himself in this dark world. And that is why when we face God at the final judgement we are all guilty. Man cannot uphold Gods law. But God knew this and that is why he displayed his unfathomable love for us by sending his own son to live a perfect blameless life so that he could lay down his life by his own power on the cross and raise it back up on the third day, conquering death. There is still a choice, but God made it simple for us, all we need to do is admit that we are sinners before God and believe in Jesus and commit our lives to him. Its not about rules, its about having a loving relationship with God through his Son Jesus.
Think of a man who marries a prostitute. If I were married, I would want my wife to be faithful to the vows that we made: “for better, or worse, in sickness and in health for life.” If my wife were to sleep with a different man every night I would be heart broken, I would be angry and jealous. This is the love and patients that God has for us when we accept Jesus. We are still sinners but Jesus said: “I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.” (no man includes you)
Jesus said: “I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave to sin.” (John 8:34)
I am still human and mess up sometimes, but since I have rededicated my life and removed sin from my life through my relationship with God through is Son Jesus, I have never been happier, never felt such a peace. I rededicate every day now because I don’t want to be away from God’s presence.
I am actually reading the book of John right now, but I recommend starting out with it because it is the book of love.
God bless you, and never forget that Jesus does love you