Relationships and disclosure

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i think a relationship is a two way street, you need to keep the fire alive in order for it to last, i would say that my first goal is to find my ideal woman and then i will think about kids, i remain hopeful for this though,

as far as disclosure goes, i think there is a way of telling her that could actually bring you closer together, think of a way to tell her about it without putting yourself down or putting her off of you,

i would probably say something like, (me) i have something to tell you (gf) what is it? are you alright? (me) yes but i need to tell you about myself…(gf) ‘looks worried’ what is it honey?(me) a long time ago i didn’t cope very well with things, (gf) ‘looks concerned’ why? (me) i wasnt feeling very well for a long time (gf) oh, ‘looks concerned’ (me) but i’m much better now and i love you and all of that, its just i thought you should know about it…(gf) is concerned, ok (me) its just one of those things, people get sick sometimes and sometimes its hard (gf) ‘agrees’ i know what you mean…

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So it’s all in the past and not something like sz that could come roaring back at any minute?

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yes, as long as i take my meds i’ll be ok

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Misconception. You can still relapse on medications. They can lose efficacy over time. It is a neverending battle, generally.

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So how do you convince her if there need to increase choline and DHA during pregnancy, assuming you have kids like you’ve said you want to, to help prevent passing on sz to a hypothetical child?

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thats your misconception tbh

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It is not a misconception. It is backed by years of research and observation of SZ patients who are medicated. We have no cure.

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idk what you are talking about, as far as i am concerned the child(ren) would be healthy

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That’s a lot of people’s reality. The stress if having a newborn and never getting sleep for 9 months wears on a normal person. It could knock you back to square one and completely psychotic.

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So there’s no chance you’ll pass on sz to them? Are you sure?

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i think you are both pessimists tbh, i happen to be an optimist

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As far as you are concerned, you do not know whether or not your child will end up with SZ. It’s irresponsible to even think otherwise.

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You are not being optimistic; you are being entirely unrealistic about this disease and its heredity.

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Ignorance is bliss.

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there is a risk but life is more important imo

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I understand wanting children and being willing to take on risk, but consider your partner in that, too.

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But there’s something proven that can help prevent it. Why would you not want to take advantage of that?

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i’m not ignorant, you all seem to be very negative about this, it makes me think ‘why’ have you got such a problem(s)

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i would always consider my partner, why wouldnt i?

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If you are unwilling to disclose and have a child with your partner, you are not considering your partner.

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