I am seeing a new lady recently and am not sure whether to tell her I am diagnosed with sz or not. What do you think?
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Could you see marrying her?
Why not maybe one day yes
Then you should consider it.
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As I wrote to Mortimermouse some time ago, do not tell unless you want this lady to leave you, normal people just can not understad it, today I also met two mentally ill women who both were attractive, having the same issues may be plus.
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I would give it some more time. Allow things to develop more between the two of you - I would tell her when things are more established between you guys. Telling someone right away could intimidate her away - most people do not have a clear understanding of what SZ is all about - lots of misinformation and false scary information on the illness.
I personally would give it a bit more time - good luck with everything!
All comes down to personal opinion about when the time is right for you to share your diagnosis, I think if you see any future with this woman now would be a good time that way if she does react unfavourably you won’t be as hurt. If things are going great for you guys I don’t see that happening I’m sure if you’ve gotten this far you’ve found an amazing woman if not better you took the risk and found out early
I agree with Wave. You don’t have to tell her straightaway. If you do, she will start looking for ‘symptoms’, and some of them are so vague that you can find them in everyone. Wait a couple of months so she can learn who you are and see how you behave, then tell her. By that time you will know what you feel about her too. You may not want her. In that case, why tell?
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I will go with the postpone opinion. Although it is a heavy burden to deal with someone at a personal level who does not know about the case. It puts extra pressure to the shoulder but after all its this pressure we need to be able to coop with lifes most demanding moments like work and marriage and independence. Thanks a lot everyone. I really appreciate your input.
i was honest with mrs. sith…the tin foil hat gave it away.
take care
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I happened to blab it out there too… In fact I shouted it at her in hopes of scaring her away… she wasn’t scared of me at all.
I’m starting to understand why others don’t.
It makes sense to see if this person is going to spend some real time in your life before showing all the cards.
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I dunno I was quite gutsy about my condition on dating website. Turned out most people were too shallow or lazy to understand what I go through as a person. I think eventually you need to tell her the truth, it may strengthen your relationship.
I think that getting to know each other for who you are is an important step. Then she will see you for you and then learn of your illness. The timing is sensitive though, like she wouldn’t want to feel that you’ve kept something from her. Maybe after a few dates?
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