I am really scared to disclose my illness to my boyfriend. I am in a long term relationship and know that I need to tell him. But I’ve never been able to bring myself to do it. Everyone outside of family that Ive told has stopped talking to me or the relationship has changed significantly. I don’t want to be stigmatized by him because I dont think he will understand based on comments he’s made in the past. I also think it would change our whole relationshio. I feel like it is really unfair that I could lose him because of the illness. Has anyone disclosed to a bf/GF before?Any advice?
I have always told my significant other immediately but I see your pain in the situation. All you can do is just break it to him and hope for the best. If you are in a long term relationship and he loves you it should be unconditional I would think. Good luck.
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I’m sorry you are going through this, and if it’s time to tell him then it’s time. I found out about my mental illness with my wife, and for a time we thought about splitting up because of it. You need to let him make his own decision on this. The sooner you tell him the less difficult it will ultimately be for both of you. Good luck.
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I know what you’re talking about. I’m sorry.
The problem with not telling him, is that if you become psychotic, he wont know what to do or what is going on. He will be in for quite the surprise.
I know it is hard to disclose this kind of stuff, but it is for the best.
Maybe the reason he has said things like that, is because he doesn’t have a personal connection to mental illness. Maybe he will be more understanding than you think. Loved ones can also help prevent a relapse.
I am very sorry you are going through this. I wish you the best <3
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He will find out anyways eventually. If you think you have a serious, serious future with this man then out of respect for him and for the sake of being honest then you might as well let him know what he might be in for as soon as possible. And remember, you are both on the same side.
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People do recover and go on to have normal healthy life’s.
If he’s a jerk now why stay?
Think about all romantically ya know maybe you could change his perspective about ppl that have sz, think about how beautiful that would be one less pawn on the stigma field. What i mean is dont doubt yourself im sure he wont judge love really is an unconditional feeling anything less is fake.
It’s great that you have the presence of mind to be able to have a significant other. I think I’m going to be single for the rest of my life, my symptoms are too persistent.
I have alogia so I can’t speak or connect with others through speaking.
He’s going to find out some day, so you might as well tell him. It would be worse if he found out some other way.(like from someone else, or you had a relapse)
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I told my boyfriend early in the relationship (I think it was around a month or two?) and I’m so glad I did. When he found out, he did some thinking and talked about the possibility of continuing to date me with his best friend. I was really bugged about him telling his best friend but I understand now cause I would’ve done the same. He decided to wanting to continue the relationship despite his best friend saying he shouldn’t (one, cause I mean the relationship was still new and two, sz is kind of a big deal. My bf and his best friend weren’t the kind to take most things seriously)
It all just depends on what kind of person they are and if you’re willing to let them know sooner or later. I took the risk of telling him early on and I would’ve done it again if I had the chance, even if it ended differently.
When I first started dating my husband, I was worried he wouldn’t understand because he made a few comments about how his grandmother was crazy and he didn’t like her. But when I told him, he fully accepted it, and now that he knows more about mental illness, he is more patient with his grandmother.
Tell him. You might be surprised how understanding he is.
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i ususallt disclose eay on. uyou should ell m asap see what his readction is, he should be understading if he truly loves you