Someone on a dating app just asked me why I’m hesitant about kids. Even before my episode of psychosis/mania I was unsure about kids. And obviously the episode has made me even more hesitant. Is it best to disclose now (we haven’t even met in person) or later? I have reasons for being hesitant that are unrelated to mental illness. I also don’t even have a clear diagnosis as I’ve had no issues (without meds) for more than a year. So am not even sure how I’d word the disclosure.
Fundamentally I feel like it’s pretty private information (I’ve only told my family and closest friend) so I’d rather not disclose. But also want to be fair to them.
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In my case I went on and mentioned I had Sz before too much time had passed. We have been dating for six months now. I don’t remember now when I mentioned it.
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You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Just state that you don’t want kids and you don’t feel comfortable going into it further until you know them better. That should be enough. Unless you feel comfortable revealing it which it sounds like you don’t.
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Scammers are happy when their target has mental illness and is more vulnerable. I don’t think your experience is helpful to OP.
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Maybe 6 months is enough time for her to ask you about kids.The thing is the women is going to expect you to give her an answer to you.
How to do this?
Maybe give her some clues through out in days on what your trying to explain to her or to show her what your asking.
I don’t mention my issue in my dating profile, the issue of kids is maybe something you should be very careful to discuss. I’m happy that you’re doing pretty good mentally though 
Go ahead and disclose early about the kid thing. Even in your profile. There are many women out there that want to be child free. And the others don’t want to waste time on a relationship that will not result in them having a child.
As for your mental health, diclose when you are comfortable.
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