Long story short - we were friends since school. Since 11th grade. But we never were best or even good friends.
She is fine… but probably our energy don’t match.
She has bipolar. But a veeery bad case. If she isn’t using meds - she literally becomes depressed, desperate and angry.
I never truly (it’s honest) talked everyday or about deep stuff with her. We are probably more acquaintances then friends.
Once we were in argument and she said I need to lose weight and stop eating so much. In my eyes - she called me fat pig.
I told her it’s none of her business and that she should take care of her mental health more
After a year, she’s texting and asking to meet me. She said sorry for what she said etc etc, but I am truly not sure whether I should meet her. I don’t want to sound rude but hell she is very annoying! She always talks only about her life, her bf and her problems. She also hurted me saying I am fat.
She’s so desperate to meet me, and I don’t know what to do. I feel sorry for her, but our energy truly doesn’t match. It’s like… I am really not sure why she want to meet me. It seems we both dislike each other.
You could meet her again if you think there’s a possibility that you can get along. If you think the chances of that coming true is small, maybe don’t meet her again.
I don’t know why people have to be in person. She can talk with text or video call or something. Does she want to see you in person just to judge your appearance or something?
I believe chances of us becoming closer or better friends are truly small. I just sense that most of the times she’s being not honest with me.
It’s really hard to explain but it seems our characters are too different.
I believe she sees is as option, too.
I remember she was telling rude things about me to other people non stop. She telled everything to her boyfriend, what I told her. She loves to gossip.
Just keep saying “I’m not feeling up for it” perhaps.
When you don’t vibe with someone and you are uncomfortable with them and sense they don’t like you or wish you well and they may have a hostile energy then it’s best to avoid them.
I have “family “ like that and I avoid them as much as I think I can at this point in time.
I try to never meet them .
I would ask her to meet you in a month or so. If she really wants to meet you she will wait. Just go for a coffee and then leave afterwards. Who knows maybe she regrets how she treated you and feels bad?