no luck. A few weeks ago, I stopped this elderly woman who lives in my apartment complex, for a friendly conversation, and I thought we got along great. I talked with her a couple of times just friendly chatter. Then, one day, I ran into her and asked her if it would be alright if I came over to her apartment sometime for a visit. She told me no she did not have any time in her life for me. I was heartbroken.
Ever since I moved into my apartment complex a year ago, I have been inviting another woman to come visit me at my apartment “any time she sees fit”. She has never taken me up on it in all this past year. Today, I asked her why she never comes over. She told me that she “never knows when I am sleeping”. So, today, I asked her if she would like some company. She told me no she didn’t. I was heartbroken over that too.
I can count on one hand the number of friends that I’ve had in my lifetime. I’m just no good at making friends. That’s why I’m always alone. My aloneness used to bother me terribly when I was younger. Now, I could care less because I am so used to it now.
Sure is a good thing I got God. I don’t know what I’d do without Him.
Sorry your having problems Gina. I too have been rejected by people. Maybe try a mental illness support group like nami. If you get to know the people maybe ask them if they would like to hang out sometime.
My best friend went 10 straight years with no friends. She and I met in a doctors office and hit it off right away. We’ve been friends for 5 years now. Just keep meeting people and being friendly like you are. Have you tried meetup.com?
I’ve been isolating myself coming up 12 years now in that time I’ve made no new friends and have held onto one childhood friend (who I had some pretty disturbing delusions about)
I have difficulties making and keeping friends too.
I don’t have any friends.
I have one girl I write to a few times a year but that’s not enough.
I like to think I have friends in spirit and I have you guyzzz.
I agree it’s brave of you to take such initiative.
Sorry you were rejected.
They sound like they would be crappy friends. I have two friends out here in the world, but I hardly do anything with them. I don’t think they mind. We go watch Marvel movies when they come out. But I get you wanting to be social. Sometimes I get lonely and want company too.
The girl I write with a few times a year was my best friend but we lost contact pretty much when I was psychotic and she was traveling the world, getting married,teaching ,buying a house and having children.
I had delusions and one of the voices I had was her being awful so I didn’t want anything to do with her back then because of the voices and delusions and now we don’t seem to laugh and connect etc so it’s just a few emails s year “how’s it going”…
I am very sorry to hear you are having difficulty finding friends…all my friends live far away but I have two friends here in town…makes a world of difference…don’t give up !!
I am rubbish at making friends but I’m not brave like you
You have asked for freindship which is admirable and if you keep putting yourself out there you have good chance. Of finding someone who will want to be your friend
These days it’s pretty obvious when I go out or try to talk to normal people that I’m not like them. My concentration is so bad it’s hard to hold a conversation. Good thing there are support groups where I feel comfortable.
My biggest flaw is that I’m inconsistent. That makes having me in one’s life precarious. I’m physically and mentally disabled. I think that sometimes, I’m way too much to handle.
I think you’re going to have friends. Give yourself a little wiggle room. Pm me anytime.
Thank you for posting about friendships. I’ve been really lonely lately and wishing I was capable of having friends. I have acquaintances who will smile and say hello if they see me, but no one to spend time with.
And then I think about calling or texting someone to get together and my anxiety is unbearable so I don’t reach out either.
It sucks.
I’m not good at making friends, and lately people have been insulting me, when I never thought of them, for a friend. I walked into a walmart, and a woman said: “No!” Like I had asked her something, then my hairdresser gave me a subliminal: “Never”. They’re not even my age.
