to consider myself a very successful person, I would like to make a lot more money, have a senior position in a well established company, I will be really satisfied if I make about 75k per year in my 30s. at least do one art exhibition in my life, travel a lot more, buy a house and decorate it exceptionally. Have a walk in closet. stop being depressed. If I could change one thing about myself, it would be my attachment to things, I wish I could let things go more easily.
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i am a winner; 
good looking ( johnny depp look alike )
rich
6 pack
ferraris 
penthouse in paris 
caviarā¦truffles for breakfast.
etcā¦ 
take care 
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Iāve heard that is where the correlation between happiness and money break down. People who make more than that arenāt any happier just from the money alone.
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No, I am more badass than I ever imagined. I never saw myself being this sick, sick in the most badass way.
Psycho killer.
Normal killers donāt even yo. They will never even.
Donāt really have a choice, might as well be proud of it.
Iām more proud of the recovery than having the illness, I get where mouse is coming from. I got off on the challenge of it for a while there.
Thatās sz life for you.
I donāt know if I can cross the 50k line in income somehow then Iāll feel pretty well off.
How to get there I donāt know, sky is the limit though.
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I wouldnāt call a guy in a wheelchair a failure for not even being able to work at McDonalds.
So I think the same criteria applies to us. I think the ones on here who call themselves āfailuresā are comparing themselves to other people that maybe they shouldnāt be. We do what we can do.
Society can be partly to blame for our lives, we bear a little responsibility of courseā¦ Life is tough and we got dealt bad cards. People who were born into slavery got dealt bad cards. People born into extreme poverty got dealt bad cards. People with birth defects, blind people and, people with Down Syndrome got dealt bad cards. Crack babies got dealt bad cards. The list goes on and on.
So what can you do but try to live your life as best you can with what you got. We got screwed even though we did nothing to deserve it. We are stuck struggling with what other people take for granted. If you rise above your circumstances; well then ākudosā and congratulations and you can deservedly be proud of yourself.
But if a disease stops you from working or going to school you have not failed in the eyes of many people besides myself. We are a minority and we have a long way to go but our families and friends know weāre not failures and besides, our lives are nobodies business.
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I think this Poll is all wrong - nobody here or anywhere is a āfailureā - whatever that means.
Everyone fails at things - thats normal. Nobody fails at 100% of things - we all get up during the day, feed ourselves, dress ourselves, and do hundreds of other things each day.
Everyone also fails at some of the major things / goals in life - but who ever said that those goals were written in stone and were the right goals for you. Everyone is different, everyone has different life experiences which help or hinder themā¦
Some good quotes to keep in mind:
http://commentsmeme.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Failure-Quotes-8.jpg
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Excellent stuff @szadmin
I just wanted to see how people here think about themselves. I didnāt want to encourage people to think of themselves that way, but I suspected a lot, like me, did. Itās hard not to think of yourself like a failure when youāve failed at all fronts. Family, friends, relationships, work, university and daily life. The most consistent thing about me is that I fail at things.
I know the illness is mostly to blame. But I also made so many bad decisions. So Iāve failed, a lot, but hopefully Iāve learned something too and can do something about what makes me fail again and again.
Everyone fails at these things at one time or other, to varying degrees. The important thing is to try to learn from your mistakes and keep goingā¦ I suspect that for most people here, that this is actually the most consistent thing about you.
Its all how you look at it. Just because you fail doesnāt make you unique or a failure. Everyone does this - but people tend to put too much emphasis on their own shortcomings and the more isolated you are the more you tend to focus only on your own challenges. Its easy to not see other peopleās problems too.
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Iām not isolated, and I know lots of people have more problems than me. Iām happy. I donāt complain much about my life. But if I donāt blame myself for my lack of trying to achieve anything that I want, Iām afraid Iād just stop trying altogether. Itās how I get things done. I feel bad until I do it. When I donāt feel bad, I donāt do things.
Edit: Iām still trying to find other ways to get motivated, but this is what works for me now and I havenāt found anything that works better.
Sounds like you have a good outlook - good news. Yes - definitely you have to focus on the effort and working towards your goals, whatever they are. Thats the only way!
But please, donāt ever classify yourself as a failure. You only fail if you stop trying, and everyone needs to keep trying at things throughout the lives.
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Yes. I will admit that youāre probably right. I donāt have to tell myself Iām a failure to keep trying. I have to process this and probably rethink my strategies a little. Iām a little confused now from all the thinking I just did.
No not a failure have succesfully completed 4 years of college even though I have schizophrenia
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yeah I donāt fancy being rich. I like to make enough to travel once or twice a year, buy what I like and pay my bills. I donāt want to stress out for anything either.
One is very weak to his own thinking, massive great in the eyes of othersā¦ Although i get the thoughts of being a failure, but thatās just in my head, because i wake up every day and still insist to battle with life and be a winner, you see, i am training my brain muscle to think positive, i fail at that, yes, but i donāt fail at life, noā¦ Great words by Admin, it all gets screwed up the moment we picture the perfect thing.
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Like 500$ shoes lol
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I really have a desire to wear branded clothing. I have a very expensive taste. Thereās a purse Iām gonna eventually gonna buy but itās 2K, Itās called Celine. Iām thinking of buying it as a reward for my hard work when I get abs.
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I could use some more clothes. I canāt ever find anything I like.
I donāt care some much about brand so long as it isnāt branded.
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