Do you consider yourself a loser? Or not? Why?

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I do consider myself a loser. In part because of the illness/meds./whatever, in part because my life choices.

And you?

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Yea I do.

Work stuff is doable, but the rest of my life is a mess when it comes to social stuff

I have no friends who’re my peers in the local community

The only people I really see often is my parents and the MH team

Apart from that a few relatives on occasion

It has been a decade since my friends ghosted me :frowning:

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I feel like a loser. :snake::snake::snake:

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Definitely not a loser.

I am not like most other people but I know who I am and what I am about.

Sza sucks and so does a whole crapload of things from my past. Therapy of 4 years helped my self-esteem for sure.

Edit:

I am sure many see me as a loser but if they don’t like me for who I am then ■■■■ them.

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Yes, I am a loser. I blame my anxiety for that.

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I’m a good person so I cannot be a loser
Putin is a looser

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I’m ill and a social outcast. But not a loser. I don’t do drugs. Take care of my health and treat people well and try to help whenever I can.

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I’m sick with multiple mental illnesses. But I don’t consider myself a loser because I always do the best I can in the moment.

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Not really. It’s a disease and debilitating meds both which impair decision making and life choices. Although I try not to make excuses.

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Yep. I tried dating for ten years but everyone rejected me so I stopped trying. Been alone ever since. I have to not think about it or I get incredibly sad. Then I got sz so whatever small chance I had probably disappeared.

My experience with this illness is that most female sz are in a relationship and most sz males are single.

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I’ve been realizing lately what a loser I must look like to other people, but I still have time.

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I’m so sorry your friends ghosted you @Joker. That’s awful.

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No, I’m not a loser. I’m a good person and done a lot of good things in my lifetime.

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That’s a interesting observation about sexes and relationship with sz.

Another observation I think I have made in general is that women on average tend to find a new partner after a breakup faster, while men tend to stay single longer.

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I consider myself a big loser. There was enormous pressure on me to get my degree and be financially successful. I failed to get my degree and really couldn’t shake the feeling that I was a loser after that.

The feeling of being a loser has been my constant companion throughout my life.

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I’m not a fukking loser.
No one here is.

I blame my disorder

But I’m a good person who is trying

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I´m not saying anyone is, just that we feel that way towards ourselves…

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I cut myself some slack
I never feel like a loser

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Sad to hear you haven’t been able to shake the feeling. You seem to be trying though and that’s worth something extra under these difficult cicumstances many of us struggle with. You are not sz by choice, you shouldn’t feel bad about it.

I’ve been there though, but for the last five years or so I have better confidence and see things in a better light.

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Sometimes I do feel loserish.

It helps to remind myself of the positives, while sticking up two middle fingers to societal expectations.

Some days it’s easier to do than others, though.

If anything, I’m an outcast— both by choice and otherwise.

This song helps sometimes:

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