Also remember a lot of them may be scared as hell. Maybe they have social anxiety or their own baggage they’re worried you won’t accept. It’s not all one sided.
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yeah but i am willing to accept certain things, my last proper gf had social anxiety, the last girl i spent time with had learning difficulties,
How do strangers know that though?
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And you can’t really just say that in your profile or it’ll sound like you’re taking advantage of them or something.
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I think you need a larger platform,
Maybe when you have the extra funds invest in a big website like match or something.
More ladies, more chances things could go right.
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maybe they are all out of my league 
i tried match for a year maybe longer, tried others but i am very bad at this, i really feel like throwing in the towel 
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Maybe throw in the towel for a while, if you are really feeling done being played with.
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I would give a lot to find a woman I felt like I could communicate with satisfactorily. I’d be lying if I said that attractiveness didn’t matter. I’m 59 years old, so getting a thirty or forty year old girlfriend would be robbing the cradle for me.
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i’m trying to look at women who dont look so serious about things
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We all have flaws. Not being aware of your flaws is a flaw.
Also, do you only go for pretty women? Because if you choose superficially, you should expect that most of those who reply to you will do the same. They will want something superficial in return, like money, power, or good looks and a nice body.
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Stop going in heart first, try to make friends with a girl first and let it progress naturally
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I don’t bother with women, never had a relationship either, and still a virgin at
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@asgoodasitgets adopt a dog from your local shelter instead.
Relationships are way too complicated!
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imo i dont think i am doing anything wrong, i think they are the ones that need their heads examined, i dont pick the girls that look to high maintenance bc i couldnt deal with that kind of women, normally the ones who pout and that
Whoa,
I think I know what the problem is now.
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I think you need to lose the attitude that they must be playing with you since they didn’t want you.
Nothing is wrong with them nor you.
Maybe they sensed your desperation, which is a no-go for many.
I’ve been on dating sites, and I’ve rejected and/or ignored many men. It wasn’t because I wanted to play games or make them feel bad. Some just weren’t a good match for me, some seemed creepy, some seemed like they just wanted anybody, and some weren’t good enough at spelling. For some reason the spelling puts them in my no-box.
But yeah, like me and others have said, you cannot take it personal. They are not evil beings for rejecting you, and they’re not doing it to be mean.
You don’t want to be with someone who’s dating you to be nice, do you?
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Why don’t you try bumble?
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i’m not desperate, i am just frustrated and i don’t think i have an attitude either,
women are too picky, like why does it have to be my fault that i’m not finding someone? just bc i am a guy, what about them? they aint all that you know.
I think you’re missing the point here.
It’s NOBODY’S fault that the women didn’t choose you. It doesn’t have to be because they’re picky or have high standards.
You just weren’t a fit.
Why they think you weren’t a fit, I don’t know.
Playing the blame-game or trying to justify feeling hurt by telling yourself something’s wrong with the women, won’t change reality.
You’ll find someone who likes you eventually. You just have to keep on trying.
And also, as someone who’ve been on dating sites, I can tell you that most women get a LOT of messages from guys. Like, A LOT. We have to sort through all the messages, and it’s impossible to carry 50 conversations at once.
Also, when I do go on dating sites, I usually tend to only be there until I find someone I like who seems to like me too, then I stop talking to the others.
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I agree with @spiderpig, be a friend with the girls 1st, you are putting yourself in to much pressure if the only thing that you want is to be her boyfriend.
Being rejected isn’t easy, but being her friend 1st could decrease your chances of being rejected. She might want to know you better, as you should want to do that as well. Being respectful towards any girl could give you some points.
Imagine this, she had a lot of dates, most of the guys tried what you wanted and never wanted to know her better. Maybe she doesn’t want to be just a body and wants something meaningful, as you probably want as well. Imagine all the creeps she has to handle just because she is pretty, she might be exhausted of creeps.
If you strategy isn’t working maybe it’s a good time to change right? I don’t know, I’m just trying to give the best advice, I suck at love too 
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