My sister gets so angry whenever we interact. She apologizes, tells me she went off the rails and she’ll never do it again, three times so far. She is undiagnosed. But, frankly, she’s got a real problem. What can I do to help her?
She’s coming to visit in a couple weeks. She’ll stay with our Mom across town. We agreed in an email(after a series of nasty ones from her)that we’ll only see each other twice with my Mom present both times. And we are doing that to keep our Mom happy.
What I’ve tried so far: only bringing up topics where we have common ground(she argues anyway). I’ve tried humor. I’ve tried music.
My sister used to be quite nasty and have outbursts of anger, but since being prescribed the antidepressant Lexapro she has been as gentle as a lamb. She is a pleasure to be around now.
Hi Jayster
She bullies me. She gets nasty. If she would say something like, I feel angry when…fine…but, no, she goes on a personal verbal attack.
She and I have a long history of her bullying me, and me getting upset and being helpless to do anything…until I stopped allowing it…told her I wouldn’t let her in my home anymore. I’d just had enough.
Then our Mom(89 y.o.) gets upset. Says we’re her only family and we have to get along. So I say ok, so now once again it seems I’m at sis’ mercy to keep Mom happy. They were here a few days ago and no attacks but sis was pissy anyway. Tomorrow the holiday. Sure hope I can get through it without a meltdown of my own.