If two generations in the family are ill as its in my case and one others friend… Yeah… I start to feel better in the day, but still have to do many efforts in order to feel ok all day long… But its hard to hear from my mother, that we shouldnt have kids, cause my dad and i were ill… Gosh!.. I deal still with a broken heart, i should stop dreaming or what? She also keeps saying, that she wouldnt have married my father if she knew he was ill.
For my mother, my illness is only genetic… She is nice, isnt it?!..
Do you want kids?
Moms can be wrong. If you’re committed to taking your meds as prescribed and going to appointments and you’re ok that way then you should be able to have kids. I’m a good mom. I’m really close to my kids. Don’t give up. Like is said, moms care and mean well, but they can be wrong too
Om, i wait to be really well to decide it. I still dont know what i want. But i find my mother harder than yours here… Shes terrible. She sees my future between my four walls, with nobody on my side and dependant financially on my sister… Ok, i am ill since twenty years, twenty years where i wasnt functionanl, but something changes now, i am getting stabilized and she is very pessimistic… None of my ill friends parents are like this… Ok, i guess its not good to rage against a mother like this, but she never encouraged me in anything… Whatever…
If I had known that I was sza before I got pregnant, I would have chosen not to have kids. My son ended up inheriting my sza genes and ended up killing himself at the age of 30. He suffered terribly both before he died and during his death. No, I would have chosen not to have kids.
I am sorry ginalove… But you cant forbidden to all the mi people to not have kids. It would be a genocide no? Ill think really better one day on this, but my mother has no right to mess up with my life. I am decided to take my life in hands. Ok, maybe i am wrong to still want from my mother to be someone else.
A lot can change. In the future you might be able to factor something in that you know nothing about now.
@Anna1, I am not forbidding people to have kids. I’m just saying that for me, I wouldn’t have had any kids. I know I chose not to have any more.
You’re attitude toward kids has more to do with your mother than your father. They say the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. So, did your mother treat you well before you grew up? My mother started not believing in me with adolescence. I think it was her way of clinging although she insisted it wasn’t.
I know, gina. I was talking about my mom. Ok, maybe its a dumb post. But my mom is hard.
I was blaming myself for years, that i am a monster… I am different than my mother. If we listened to her with my sister, i would have never had nephews… My mother is strange. She sees my future in my four walls, but this wont happen, no… With or without kids .
I have a 10 month old boy. If you and your partner can take care of them I say go for it
So, your mother was against your sister having children, too? Blaming your father’s genes? I think she’s trying to pass the buck. How old are your nephews?
Yeah, a bit… We have some problems now with the nephews and my mother blames the madness of my father… She says my dad has procreated just crazy generations… She is tough yes. I dont know why is she likes this. Whatever, i work to be in peace too and still love her and help her.
What kind of issues do they have?
The big one is just a bit introverted. But whatever.
Yeah, I wouldn’t consider that a major problem. I was introverted and did fine
Tell me you all then - why my mother is so pessimistic about me now? Maybe cause i wasnt improving for years?
I look like i am still rebelling, isnt it ? Yeah…as i said, i really feel something different now in the day for a few, but more is needed though… Sorry if i am hard to talk to. Dont get me wrong, my mom takes good care of me, but she has those kinds of very categorical opinions and this is still hard for me cause i am fragile.
The biggest irony for me in this conversation is that I’m irresponsible, but my daughter is not. She’s kind of an old young person, y’know? Got a large dose of common sense from her mom, obviously.