Fundamentally. As a human being. She’s rude and she and my brother have this superiority complex. They think they’re better than me and it’s pissing me the fúck off. She snaps in my face, she threatened to get rid of my dog because she won’t hold the fúcking cat for literally 30 seconds while Chloe and I came in from walk. Mind you, Tink Tink has attached Chloe time and time again and she’s taken it, but this time she growled and suddenly she’s bad and out of control. She knows how much Chloe helps me and she still doesn’t fúcking care even when I agreed to take care of her with my own money. I’m a human being and I think I deserve at least some sort of respect. And of course, if I try to talk to her about this she’ll call me fúcking paranoid. I don’t know what to do. 
Moms will try to treat you like a child and remain in power, as long as they can. That’s my experience anyway.
They have power because you live in their home, and she is the boss.
I suggest you try get your own place.
Start by taking the f-word out of your rant. That is if you want to be respected.
If you won’t or can’t get another place then you have 2 options to get respect as an adult.
1 hurt your mother in some way, I don’t mean physically
2 ignore her, and don’t accept your lower status
@fingolfin is right. Can you get your own place so you can have peace of mind?
Those things are just temporary, until she starts treating you decently as you deserve.
Hurting someone isn’t going to gain their respect of you. Ever.
I disagree, for some people it’s the only thing which gains their respect.
I’ve never seen that work in a positive way. Unless I guess if you want them to cut you off for the rest of your life. Who would want that? There is a way to gain respect. I do like the idea of moving into your own place. That is what worked for me. Once I was out, my mother had no control over where I went or what I did. She accepted that over time and now we have a good bond.
Well if you can move out that is the best option as I said earlier.
But, hurting someone doesn’t mean brutalizing them, just let them know they can’t push you around as they like.
Dude, if you don’t do that, people will walk all over you as they please. I know that from personal experience.
Causing hurt doesn’t gain respect from normal people. Just avoidance or can trigger an escalation of behavior.
Well, I find that isn’t the case.
Standing up for yourself is very different from emotionally or mentally abusing someone. I wouldn’t ever suggest harming someone just so you can express your own feelings. Then you are the one walking all over them. You can seek respect. But you won’t get that respect from them, just fear.
I disagree. 151515
I am sorry you are stuck in this living situation. It really did help me to leave, but I can’t say I recommend doing things the way I did. I ended up sleeping on stranger’s couches for months, and I am very lucky I wasn’t attacked during that time. Do you have a cousin or aunt who you get along with?
I can’t move out. I can’t hold a job right now so I’m on disability. I live with my mom and she and all my doctors agree that I should just stick with going to school part time for now. I don’t care about power, all I want is to be treated like a human being.
So, according to you, I don’t deserve to be respected because I chose to use the f-bomb during a rant on an anonymous internet forum? That’s idiotic. It’s not like I’m sitting here cursing out my mom.
I’m not going to hurt my mom. That’s not what this is about. I want her to treat me like a human, like I treat her.
I’m sorry too you’re in a sucky situation Sardonic, I know what it’s like coz I’ve been there.
But sometimes you have to fight for your rights, or accept the situation.
I don’t know of any other option.
You totally deserve respect @Sardonic it is your basic right. You are right about that. I’m sorry you are stuck.
I learned to ignore my family, otherwise I will be homeless and die. My brothers call me useless, junky and coward while pushing or gently hitting me. They say its to make me a man and fight in life.
I wonce said to this gal that was mad at the world. I said get your face out your p…sy and tell me what wrong. she stoped and broke down and told me. she hadn’t any love for years and was unhappey with everthing. I know It was time for a well check. but how…!