My husband planned two trips behind my back

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Last night he told me he had already planned two trips, each lasting about four days.

One to visit a friend turning 40 this year,

Another to take a cousin camping.

I feel completely betrayed and taken advantage of.

I never get a break from taking care of his ungrateful mother,

Yet he’s running off to enjoy not one, but two trips?

I can’t even take a nice day trip by myself because no one would be home to take the dogs out.

He won’t even stay home on the weekends so I can go out.

It’s ridiculous!

He’s being so selfish and it’s not like him.

Maybe he’s stressed or having some sort of crisis,

But he’s not the only one.

I’m losing my ■■■■ trying to take care of his mother.

I don’t know what to think.

What do you think?

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I think the stress of his mother is getting to him too. I think you’re right and he’s having some kind of crisis.

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I’d be pissed. I’d much rather see MIL put in respite care for a week. So you two could get a break together.

I think he’s running from his responsibilities and shrugging them off on you. Then running off with his buddy.

He’s got a lot of very difficult questions to ask himself he’s shying away from.

I’m sorry Mr. Gable, it’s not fair for you.

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Not cool. We do a fair split on time away with lots of discussion especially money. And what he spends with friends while away camping as an example (cheap trips) I would get at home to have a nice weekend myself. We have to have the cash. I say honest discussion

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Im sorry… but I’m having a tough go of it too. Read on…

Frankly I almost gave you the red carpet treatment to speak on my gender thread.

In one sense because you said to that TROLL Larry, you have so many questions, and at the same time I feel like I am disallowed from swimming in the other side of the fish tank on thoughts I can’t help.

Maybe try me… I’m a giver ultimately, and choose beauty or at least have been for about the last 3 years in a ton of ways.

Don’t think of it as me being sensitive or having a good memory… think of it as respect and wanting more allies on this site…

Thanks and clearly opt out if you must, I know my flaws(caffeine)… ; )

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I think he should have spoken to you about that before booking those. Ideally. Sorry I don’t have advice but that does seem unfair to just dump responsibility on you without discussing it first.

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I saw your thread and didn’t really understand it.

Could you clarify if for me?

What’s it about?

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Yeah I think that the stress is also getting to him.

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Being incoherent there might be the best outcome for me actually.

It’s not caffeine intoxication, it’s two strong cups only, but it must be mixing with the meds (now; recently), which is new and hard to isolate all the variables.

Thanks for acknowledging… I mean it when I say I could use more ‘feedback’ right now… I perceived that that troll Gagis was out for me. Meaningful about it, is I never had a gaslighting delusion before, but people were continuing to take him seriously which didn’t help.

As for your husband that is weird… stress definitely effects people a lot. How are the relationship dynamics besides the MIL situation? If it’s not like him perhaps that’s a beneficial thing to keep in mind.

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