So worried about my trip I'm making myself sick

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I’m leaving Wednesday for two weeks and I’m absolutely horrified.

I love going to visit my parents for the holidays,

But every year it causes unimaginable stress.

Lately I haven’t been able to eat,

Even lost a little weight.

I’m nervous about everything from dealing with the airport and flying to the responsibilities I’m leaving to my husband while I’m gone.

Every second is getting closer to the trip and it’s just making me sick with worry.

My husband is assuring me everything will be fine,

But how can he know that?

Oy vey,

I’m a mess right now.

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How can you know something is going to go wrong…?

It may, it may not. But it’s best to turn that off.

Part of going on vacation is turning off your worry and your stress, at least lessening it. If not what’s the point?

Remember when you and your husband first started dating and you two couldn’t do wrong in each others eyes yet? Blinded by that honeymoon period of new love, lust, admiration.

Use that, remember him in that light, capable of handling the world. Capable of handling his own mother. Capable of keeping the house running and chores accomplished.

I don’t like whenever I expect the worst, and then am disappointed by design. I want to expect the best, and enjoy what I can.

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@GoldenRex you deserve a break. You put up with so much. Just try to relax and realize that you aren’t responsible for every littlething. Rhey can cope withoutyouand NEED to do so.

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Solid advice.

Its not that I don’t have faith in him,

There’s just so much to do.

I hope he’s able to manage without me there to take care of his mom.

Its a lot of work.

But he is capable and strong.

He can handle it, its just going to be super stressful.

I really wish my mother in law was in assisted living,

It would make things so much easier.

Maybe next year,

We’re looking into it.

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Maybe this 2 weeks will convince him of what you put up with.

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I worry about you, you’re one of us and the undue stressors of having to be her caretaker puts you at risk.

I want to see you go have a good time.

If you want, I’ll go help him out :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye: I was a nurse.

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Zombie brings up an excellent point, Let him see what it’s like for you.

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Don’t offer your services because I may take you up on it,

I know you live in Northern California too!

Just kidding.

He can handle it, it’ll be rough though.

Maybe @anon4362788 is right, he’ll realize taking care of her is too hard and he’ll be more receptive to the idea of assisted living.

This could be a good thing.

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I’m always right

Except when I’m wrong

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Northern California makes the best nurses, Magnificent colleges, truly a medical utopia… if you can afford me :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

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I’m seriously considering hiring a nurse to take care of my mother in law while my husband and I are in Hawaii for our tenth anniversary in March.

I wonder if that’s possible to just hire them to check on her in the mornings and evenings to help her with dialysis and make sure she has everything she needs for the day.

If not, we won’t be able to go.

In your nurse experience have you heard of that?

Someone being hired part time, short term, just for help with the elderly?

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My stepmom would do something like that bc she’s kind and needs the money

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I wish you would go…it will be fine…don’t worry so much !!

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In home care, her doctor or head nurse usually have numbers of places they work with.

Come in once or twice a day, medications, toileting, any treatment protocol you need.

They’ll know her Medical history and come help.

It’s expensive. But do able.

Or you could look into something called Respite care. She’s be in a home for a 2 week period, with medical supervision. it’s designed to give caretakers a break.

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Thanks,

I’ll look into it.

I don’t care if it’s expensive,

I wanna go to Hawaii and have tenth wedding anniversary sex.

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Haha, Yup yup! Hope it all works out for you :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

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Going on a 2 hour trip to see my mom and dad. I must leave early at 6am from home. We are going to meet at Starbucks and maybe go window shopping. I can’t wait to see them.

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Schizophrenia makes you not less capable of the outcome. Only more worried about it.

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