I visited a friend yesterday. I’d slept pretty poorly, and was kind of tired, and I could feel it affecting my mood and ability to concentrate.
The unspoken agreement was that I’d stay over, but in the end, I told him about my sleep and that I wanted to go home and rest.
He got pretty upset about it.
He has a fear of rejecjon and being alone, and I suspect that’s what came into play. I asked him yesterday via messenger-app if we could hang out today instead, and and he told me he didn’t want to because I’d shown him that I clearly didn’t.
I tried telling him that I DO want to spend time with him, and apologising, but he wouldn’t have it.
Usually, he just needs a day or two to cool down, so I tried sending him a message today, telling him that I was going in to town for some errands and asking if he might have changed his mind.
I can see he’s read the message, but he didn’t reply.
I feel terrible. I know I hurt him, and that he felt rejected, and I wish there was a way I could convince him I DO want to hang out with him.
I also know that it’s good to look after yourself, but it doesn’t alleviate my feeling of guilt. I should have just bought coffee and stayed up with him.
How can I change the bad feeling between us? Do I just give him time?