Can't stop ruminating about friend situation

My friend got mad at me for choosing inpatient care and thereby losing my school spot, instead of at-home care and fighting for my school spot.

He hasn’t talked to me in a week, and I’ve tried several times to get him to talk to me, but no luck.

I can’t stop fixating on the situation, and it’s costing me sleep.
I’m hurt and confused and I feel abandoned.
But. I’m getting increasingly angry as the days go by. At this point, I just feel like sending him an angry text saying that he can either talk to me or come by my place with my things.
But I know I shouldn’t.

Idontknooow…
Is a week an ok length to give someone the silent treatment? How long do I wait before I text him again and ask if we can talk it out?
Do I just let him be until he contacts me?
And in that case, how long should I wait before I give up and ask for my stuff?

And how do I stop myself from thinking about it all. The. Freaking. Time?

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I think he takes advantage of you in that he knows you are prone to brooding over if you have hurt someone you care about. He knows this and I think he uses it to cause you harm.

I don’t think it is a healthy or sustainable relationship on these terms.

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I’m starting to have my doubts as well

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I am not saying totally give up on the relationship but I don’t think it is good for your health as it stands. You have to be ‘selfish’ when it comes to your own health.

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I agree. If he wants us to be friends again he’d better have a serious chat with me about what happened, and to let me tell him how it affects me.

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So do I just put him on ice until he’s willing to talk?

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Are you still an inpatient? If so I would try my best to forget about contacting him just now. Concentrate on getting stronger. I would then send a text when you are back home.

I’m going home tomorrow.

I just write him off as someone who isn’t genuinely concerned. If he was he would be willing to talk to you. He’d be missing you to the point he can’t stand it… he’d cave… instead of grateful delaying having to deal with it.

Only time will tell on that note… but you are better off letting your self-outgrow it by imagining a different future and moving on.

He’s just one dude… if he’s neglecting you he doesn’t deserve and special respect.

Do something nice for yourself… try to figure out how to open your mind to the world’s potential again… I’ve found in situations like the one your in… it’s easiest after thoroughly imagining a life that doesn’t involve the individual whatsoever.

It sounds mean but he’s left you cold and fending for yourself… perhaps he’ll earn your forgiveness… but it doesn’t sound like a healthy thing to wait on.

be strong… you deserve someone who cares.

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It sounds like he’s going to take a while. Just realise, you have no control over him and contact him if you really need your stuff

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