So I had brunch with a friend I’ve known about 5 years. We don’t see each other very often.
Today, she told me she has more fun when my husband comes with me.
Like 3 or 4 times she said it.
So she doesn’t really want to be my friend. She wants to be my husband’s friend
Dang.
Yeah, I would not hang with her again…
What a weird comment to make
That’s a really unkind thing to say. I’m sorry she said that to you.
Saying something like “invite your husband to come with us next time” and leaving it at that would be inclusive but it sounds like she just wanted to hurt you.
Not a friend I would want for me or my husband.
She’s being rude. But does this mean you don’t want to be friends with her anymore?
I don’t know @FreeLunch . I’m trying to decide if I’m being overly sensitive
I don’t think your being overly sensitive… just wondering if dropping her is the solution
Would you feel okay talking with her about it? Letting her know that she hurt your feelings.
I don’t know. I mean she would just say she meant nothing by it even if she did mean it.
Hmm maybe letting yourselves drift apart would be best. If she can’t accept that she hurt your feelings then she isn’t a good friend.
You’re not being overly sensitive.
Saying that one time might be something you can laugh off. That many times…no.
I would not continue that friendship if that’s how she was after a five year break.
Keep her far far away from your husband.
It wasn’t a 5 year break. I’ve known her about 5 years but we don’t hang out very often.
I’m considering saying I’ll bring my husband if she brings a date of her own
Wow, i can’t see how not to take that statement said multiple times personally. Is she awful in other ways?
Anything about her friendship that is worth keeping up for.
That’s not kind.
I would just be open and say you felt hurt by that. See how she responds. And go from there.
That’s what I was thinking too…
I apologize! I am not having a good day. I misread your post.
I still think repeating that was mean though.
On second account. Yes, do keep her away from him. This is really a weird thing to say repeatedly.
Is there a reason she might say this?
We need to trim what is bad for us. If you think this person is bad for you… I wouldn’t keep spending time with her…
She has done nice things before, like when Covid first started and was still really scary, my husband had it and she brought me soup and disposable gloves to handle things.
But she can also be a little unfriendly at times.
No need to apologize. I appreciate your input and we all have a lot to read here so I’m sure we often skim posts. No biggie.