My Brother Screams At My Mother

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My 52 year old brother screams at my 77 year old mother. I live in an apartment upstairs and they have an apartment downstairs. I can hear him screaming at her and I don’t know what to do.

My brother suffers terribly with schizophrenia. His meds only help a Lil. He smokes constantly every day. He woke up early today so he has to wait to get some cigs. My momma can’t afford to give him more.

I fear that he is going to cause her to die by making her so upset. She has had such a difficult life. She has cared for my brother his whole life. We had my brother in a home, but he can only go to the ones that are dirty and uncaring. My momma couldn’t stand to see him live like that so she brought him home. He is aggressive so he can’t go to a nice home.

If I go down there, I think I will just make it worse. My poor momma…

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Honestly, I don’t tolerate verbal abuse, no matter what the circumstances. I’d call the police…harsh, but that’s your mum…

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Thanks freedom-of-speech but my momma doesn’t want me to call the police unless he gets violent. I have called in the past.

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I’ve had to call about my brother and my grandmother in the distant past. Some very awful verbal abuse. For calling I was yelled at worse at far worse by both parties. I know, for me, I’m was doing the right thing. Isn’t easy but she’s I couldn’t allow it :hugs::exploding_head:best wishes and here if ya need a friend

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I don’t want to make things more stressful for my momma. She’s suffered so much her whole life. Also the police will get angry because yelling isn’t against the law.

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Verbal abuse against the elderly…idk up to you

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I got him out of the house and in a home before and she brought him back. If he was put in jail, she would die of a broken heart. He constantly runs out of cigs and constantly yells at her.

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Well, I guess she is bringing it on herself. You’ve done all you can :hugs:

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My brother suffers terribly and his cigs are all he has. He doesn’t understand what’s going on most of the time. My momma takes excellent care of him because no one else will. If I wasn’t struggling with schizophrenia too, I could take care of him.

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Sadly, that’s not an excuse to justify abuse in my world view. To each his/her own

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Is he aware that he’s being abusive or is he just completely out of it?

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I am sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds like you’re in a no-win situation. I really don’t know how i’d react in your situation as I would want to protect my mother but feel loyal to my brother. He shouldn’t be yelling at her like that though. I don’t know how severe his issues are but being sz doesn’t give you a license to be mean to people.

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Can another family member take care of him?

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No other family members can care for him. I don’t think he realizes he’s being mean. He just panics when he runs out of cigs.

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I feel bad for you @Gramm.
His sz must be pretty severe.

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It is Wave. I hate how he suffers. It breaks my heart.

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