My birthday today, a 22 year old failure

Schizophrenia is not your fault. 22 is too young to give up. When I was 22 i was in the middle of an 8 month stay in a locked psychiatric hospital. I was in there with a hundred other messed up people. Some of them were quite scary people. I didn’t really have a friend in there for the whole time I was in. I ate three meals a day sitting by myself in the crowded cafeteria. I had no money of course, no girlfriend. My symptoms were SEVERE, unbearable, agonizing. And I had those symptoms every minute I was in there for every day. The high point of my week was getting a couple dollars of a stipend and buying a candy bar, the rest of time was spent SUFFERING. REAL SUFFERING. I know yours is real too.
But I survived. So that was me at age 22. Today at age 53 I have a car, an apartment, a little extra cash, a job, and I’m on track to get an A in my online college course. I could have given up when I was 22. I’m not minimizing what you’re going through in the least. I was lucky that my family supported me. I don’t understand how other peoples family’s don’t support them. If I had given up when I had nothing at age 22, I would have missed out on Flying across the country a few times and seeing all the sights in Washington DC. I would have missed out on my girlfriend when I was 30 years old. I would have missed out on camping and water-skiing. I’m not saying you could do those things, heck, I don’t even know if I could do them again. But my life when I was your age seemed pretty hopeless. But if I had given up I would have missed out on a lot of good experiences.

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Happy Birthday by the way.

You still have a lot of time left. I wouldn’t let other people affect you that much, if you can avoid it. I know that is easier said than done, but sometimes it is best just to let things slide off your back, if you can. You could have a lot of good years ahead of you if you can learn not to get down on yourself.

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Happy birthday mate

Happy birthday to you to mate.

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Im 38 myself and relate. But in truth your schizophrenia is a full time job. This illness takes so much of your life. Other people need to understand that.

By the way, Happy Birthday!!

happy birthday hunni and let’s make it a happy one. you have an illness, that’s it. it’s not your fault any more than cancer is a child’s fault. move out and look forward to a bright future. you will be fine i promise. don’t even contemplate suicide. you think robin williams is happy now? i don’t. you’ll just be an unhappy ghost in whatever dimension they live in. don’t even think about it. live your life for you, noone else. hope this helps.

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thanks for the kind words guys. @jaynebeal @77nick77

You have a lot of time ahead of you. It’s way too early to be throwing in the towel.

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No it’s not your fault.My mom doesn’t understand my diagnosis as schizoaffective but I keep up with therapist and pdoc and have gotten a job and housing. You can do it too just believe in yourself and get someone to talk to about it like a therapist and you’ll be ok.God bless.

Happy Birthday too!!!

I hope you’re feeling better, sometimes people say things without thinking about the consequences their words will have on someone else’s ears. Don’t give up, I’ve felt the same way you have at times, but just ask myself two questions: Do I really want to die for all times, or just for today? And the other one is usually: What’s my goal for tomorrow? Normally the first answer is usually just for the day I’m thinking and the other question gets my mind off ending my life because I give myself meaning, or something else to concentrate on. Hang in there,

And I agree with the others, Schizophrenia is not your fault. Nothing you did caused the illness I happen to believe it is something we are born with and develops as our minds grow.

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Give them the same.

Weigh out their lives and then tell them how they have failed.

If you get weighed then everyone gets weighed, thats how it should be.

Weigh them as parents, friends, workers, intelligence, kindness, weigh them like they weigh you.

Tell them how they have failed.

It’s not the life that you designed for yourself . That doesn’t make you a failure.
Happy birthday! And hang in there.

Happy birthday.

I repeat, HAPPY BIRTHDAY !

We know your situation.

They don’t.

Your up against a horrible situation yet others do not seem to get the truth of it all.

Why is not compassion and understanding a big thing for them ?

Because they failed, NOT YOU.

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