Parents love their children.
I’m sure that she didn’t mean to hurt you even though she did.
Things will work themselves out @Jimbob
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hope you feel better, jimbob.
my mom says crude things and still makes dinner for me when I never ask.
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I can relate my dad has said this to me many a times 
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That must have really hurt. I am sorry.
I’m guessing you are living with them. Is there any other living arrangement option for you? It might be better all the way around if you found one. You don’t deserve to be treated that way and it sounds like they are tired. I’ve seen group home situations and the like work out much better for families than spending eternity in the same home dealing with disabilities.
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We don’t get to pick our families, but we do get to pick our friends.
Consider all these good folks on this forum your friends.
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It’s an unkind statement and I’m on your side but she was probably frustrated or tired. It shouldn’t have been said but I have to be a little ignorant here and say that’s how she feels. If you are a burden it is not your fault. We have one of the most disabling diseases a on the planet. I have been lucky with a supportive family for 35 years. But I know that no matter how much my sisters and my step-parents love me and no matter how proud they are of my accomplishments they are only human and if i do stupid irresponsible that affect them and their lives too much they will have to take action to take care of their own lives before mine or stop helping me in certain areas of my life. They cannot let me drag them down.
I am NOT saying you are doing irresponsible or doing stupid things. I think you understand what I am talking about.
I want to be a person my family is proud of and that motivates me. I am just speaking for myself in my own situation.
I don’t know what your family expects from you with having this disease but they probably want the best for you. Just do the best you can in life. If you are somewhat of a burden then that is just the way it is. But if you are a burden or not, you are still human and you deserve to be on this planet as much as anyone else and be treated fairly. If you can make some changes that might help your parents and you than make the changes. I don’t mean to be cruel and I hope I am not coming across like that. You seem like a great guy most of the time so don’t beat yourself up. Maybe you can make some small changes that will help your situation. But don’t obsess about being a burden or not.
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She has other things on her mind right now.
And to get those things you must make sacrifices.
And sometimes that is her own children.
She’s alot like charlie sheen, one speed, go, winning!
I can relate having been in similar situation with my dad and his women when i was in my worst moments with this illness. I have been there being accused of being lazy and draining and taking my dad energies, being a burden and failure. My dad was really disapointed with me and the fact that i could not get my life together was making him feel awful and desperate. He wanted me to grow up and move on out of his life and parental care but i had something he did not understand which prevented me from doing it. Every parent wants his son to become independent and successful to an extent so to be proud od them and show off with how well they are doing to other people. I kind of ■■■■■■ that up for him. He also wanted to feel young again and carefree have fun with his younger women. I ■■■■■■ that up too for him. He was angry about that and often let me know he thinks i am a burden and make his life terrible. I guess it was true and i agree that i messed up his life plans and intefered in his plans to enjoy life as much as possible. Its a legitimate accusation. Having said that i also stress that it was not my plan to do this it was me suffering from symptoms of mental illness. So, Jimbob dont feel bad, you are not responsible for meeting your parents expectations if you are unable to do so for suffering symptoms of mental illness. Your parents have a right to be disapointed or frustrated with the Situation and express that but they cannot put the blame on you being guilty or responsible for the situation. My dad passed away 12 years ago and i have since then proven myself i can do much more as back in those days but that because i have recovered a lot and do much better today than back then.
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Can you tell them therir behaviour upsets you and ask them to stop?
If they don’t , can you stop socialising with them?
My “father” who I don’t think is my real father only gets birthday n Xmas card n that’s only to be polite n so they don’t do psychology on me and cause I have to meet other people I do not like etc
Unless I break up with my bf which I don’t want to do .
I want us spend rest of our lives n beyond together.