I don’t blame my parents either. My relatives too. I have one religious aunt and probably a few cousins who would say I don’t have an illness. My favorite aunt told me that there was nothing wrong with taking medication. When i became ill my grandma came and helped my mom and dad take care of me. I was sleeping all day long and basically in a sort of stupor. I know they really love me and I think it breaks their heart their daughter (my mom) is still unable to get treatment because she can manage so well despite her delusions.
My mom tries really hard to be there for us but I also try really hard not to get upset when she lashes out from paranoia at people. I try to explain that she’s just unwell. It’s nerve-wracking most people don’t know why she does things that seem selfish. I do know deep down who she really is and how she really feels, despite the delusions that often cloud her mind. I think having a loved one in mental distress shuld be enough to get someone hospitalized who needs it. The laws are changing too. Hopefully sometime soon there will be an easier way to get someone from the county to assess my mother and get her the help she desperately needs to function.
I think denying a person access to mental health is a form of psychological torture. Because schizophrenia etc. causes unneeded psychological distress, pain, trauma, isolation, it causes us to be outcast from others. people need to be helped. My dad has tried a few times, but the barriers to it are so impossible to get through that he wants to wait until a better solution arises. It’s also incredibly costly and the insurance companies called the doctors last time and tried to convince them she wasn’t unwell and just had a drinking problem. My mom never drank much before and I’ve seen her crazy without that time she was drunk.
She was in the hospital for 3 weeks about, but she didn’t continue her medication when she got home–too early because the third week was when she started getting better. They need to do something about people who would do better about medication. But my dad doesn’t want to become either her caretaker or force the state into it, because he loves her too much to put her through that stress and he knows she is incredibly afraid of hospitals. So he is essentially her caretaker right now but he’s not forcing her to take medication because that’s not his place. So it’s a difficult situation because my mom can’t really manage on her own very well.