I actually don’t have it myself(my picture isn’t 100 percent flattering), but I feel attracted to someone who does. I’m starting to get the impression that this is a common theme with us sz’s. I read @everhopeful 's recently published article about it, and it helped fill me with logic, which may not always be my strong suit.
She still deserves empathy and respect for having a high conflict personality(she’s a human being). She lost interest in me quickly once she thought she had me. And I think she does derive more from winning relationships instead of having them.
I made a small mistake in “hooking up” with someone else while we were “talking”… but she was the one who pushed me into doing that (by chatting so many others at a party…) I think I thought I was losing her, and wanted to try and make her jealous… but she made the decision then to end it all for good. (They feel superior yet play the victim a lot.)
We’re both of a certain vintage now and both struggle with our “love life”. It’s hard for me to retire my feelings because sometimes I think about how she might have the gumption to “beat up” those who are isolating me. She is a social butterfly and a risk taker.
I didn’t enter the scenario knowing she was a narcissist, I learned it in retrospect. Anyway just kind of wanted to prove to Ever that I read the whole article. And it was nice to hear I’m not necessarily alone. Hearing other’s stories might help me as well so I certainly welcome that.
Yes I believe so. And I’m also male. Sorry if my post was confusing… I’m just a man who has trouble shaking thoughts about a female. She has “the right to be forgotten” like I said to you once. I think you and I have obsessive thoughts in common. How are you today?
You stood out bc we both have a big thing in common! I felt less alone with your “share”. Also I guess I do have a good “long term” memory… It helps me with words and phrases that I’ve liked over the years. I regurgitate them but bc I “like them” and I think that’s ok.
Thank you @Loke. They say “silent waters run deep” so hopefully by us airing this stuff out means we’re not as unhealthy as we once were. This stuff spreads like wild fire in the real world, plus people shy away from talking about it to those who could really benefit from feedback. I like this forum for it’s “outlet purposes”.
Lol I actually don’t want to say… but I do have confidence in my intelligence (just wish I could talk and think on my feet). It only comes across through writing.
I read somewhere that intellect works against you when you have Sz… For me I feel like thoughts churn. Like it’s a greenhouse effect for the mind. Maybe I’m being dramatic though. Thanks for the compliment!