Okay, so you have had fights then.
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One way fights I guess. He never argues back though.
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Have you done any soul searching as to why it’s so important for you to get engaged?
I know you say you want the relationship to move forward, but relationships constantly evolve regardless of engagement status.
Why is a promise of marriage something you feel you need to be happy with the relationship?
If the two of you are doing well otherwise, and planning to live together, is it really necessary to push him into engagement if he’s not ready?
Also… Sometimes we can’t help but feel the way we do, even though we know we’re being irrational.
Have you two had an honest talk about what you both associate with marriage and why it does/ does not matter to each of you to do it at a certain page?
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I don’t want him to if he’s not ready , because I don’t want it to be forced at all. There’s no fun in that. But I can’t help the way I feel , as you said however irrational those feelings maybe But you have very valid points.
It may not be patience
It could be avoidance
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Men don’t have the same aspirations towards love and marriage women do. I never wanted to get married but when she was six months pregnant and I was going in the military and we got more pay and benefits it was a no brainer.
We got married in February and had our son in June. You do the math. It was certainly not planned. But we are still together. Married at the Justice of the Peace in 93. No wedding. Just a few of my fraternity brothers from college there as witnesses. No family there at all.
She had a big wedding a couple years before. Marriage lasted 6 months. She got married because her parents wouldn’t let her live with a boy. Expensive mistake. Didn’t last.
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